Cheating?

[Disneyobsessed96]

If you met someone online and then got together with them and they had told you when you started talking that they weren't speaking to anyone other than you but then after a few months found out that wasn't true but they told this other person before asking you out that they didn't see a relationship with them but then continued to message them and talk about meeting even though they had told you they had no intention of doing that. And they had told you this other girl is their cousin and had continued to say that throughout the relationship. Would you class that as cheating?

His cousin? Are you supposed to believe that?

Definitely a lier if not a cheat...

He has now admitted she isn’t his cousin and I have read the messages between them and nothing flirty or sexual happened but they did talk about meeting but never met and he said he had no intention of meeting her. So I’m confused and don’t know what to feel or if this is cheating

How long have you been with him?

Still a very new relationship. About 4 months

Borderline as you've only been dating for 4 months, but he's lied from the outset so the foundation of your future relationship is basically quicksand.

It's a lot of needless lying and pissing about, isn't it, either way?

The cousin thing is a bbbiiiiggg lie.

I'd be out.

You've only been with him four months, fuck him off before you get deeper with a lying liar.

It's a lie. Why feel the need to lie is what I say. Bin him.

He's certainly lied, and not by omission, so it's worse in my book. Did he volunteer up that he wasn't talking to someone else, or did you ask and he felt put on the spot maybe? I feel it's worst if someone volunteers up unnecessarily, false information.
As it's new, and you are already feeling the need to check his texts because he's continued the lie, and expanded it with another lie on top about a mythical cousin, I think the answer should be ltb.

Just dump him

Yes its cheating.
Because he lied to you about his interaction with another woman (someone he was originally in or pursuing a relationship with) purely for his own personal gain.

If there was genuinely nothing in it but friendship for him, he'd have told you all about it as there would be nothing to worry about, right?

So he hid it. Kept his options open in case it went wrong with you i'd imagine.

If he felt the need to hide it and/or lie about it then yes its cheating.

And if he tells you he didn't tell you/be honest with you:
So you didn't get hurt
So you didn't get the wrong idea
Because they were just friends

All bollocks. He did it for himself not to protect your feelings. If he was that concerned about your feelings he'd have told you all about it and been open and honest. Not start your relationship with a web of lies.

I wouldnt say cheating but would think WTAF ? Why all the lies ?
Sorry but the lying would have pissed me off and I would have been out immediately.

I think the issue is the lies - deliberate deception- and the fact that you are focused on whether it's cheating means you've effectively been distracted from the OBVIOUS red flag.

I think the lying I would have a big problem with. He was keeping his options open by still messaging her clearly but... for me the bigger issue x10 was that he lied. Persistently.

You're only a few months in. Bin this one. The foundation is built on sand.

Unless you both say your exclusive and not to date or look for other relationships its still fair game imo.

Cheating or not, it's lies that will mess with your head. Seriously, get rid.

Ditch him. Lying is at least as bad as cheating anyway, if not worse.

Please just delete him he is a liar end of