Name changing as this could be outing. Have had a fairly good relationship with mil for 7 years, until pregnant with DC1. She constantly doubted whether mine and DH relationship would survive a baby and whether we 'knew each other enough' ( were together 5 years). Constantly reminded is how difficult children were etc. Then when DC1 came along she couldn't get enough. I had pnd and she made me feel awful that we moved into my parents house for support as DH works long hours. She was jealous and bitter. Sending DH messages about how my parents saw DC more than her and how she felt left out, so we included her more and DC1 even stayed at her house with DH only a few weeks old. Then caused a scene when DC1 was about 10 months old and she demanded he stay over hers for sleepovers and had this conversation with DH without even involving me and tried to get him to agree to DC1 staying every other weekend. Which I quickly put a stop too and told her no, I wasnt comfortable with this. Fast forward to now we have DC2, newborn, who is unwell at the moment. We've declined a few family holidays that we are pressured into and also a family get together because DC2 is unwell. This is met with messages to try and make us feel guilty about the family not meeting DC2 yet. I'm fed up with there being constant control over our lives. I know she hates that DH works long hours and only has one day off, but so do I. There's not much I can do about it, i feel like I'm constantly about to go to blows with her. I just want to move away and be left alone. Dh is always the one trying to reason with her on my behalf as I don't want to appear confrontational and ruin our good relationship. However now I've had enough. Should I try and explain how I'm feeling?