I just can't tell. I have found this year incredibly difficult (as have alot of people!) but I have also struggled massively with my 2 teenage children. One of which needs alot of emotional support and the other who is going through puberty and having massive mood swings. I also have 2 younger primary school aged children. My mental health has suffered alot and I'll admit I have drunk far more than usual lately. My partner is good at ignoring situations and turning a blind eye to any unfolding chaos leaving me to sort it all out. Recently he decided to take on an extra job on top of his full time work, which basically leaves him unable to help or offer any support. We are saving to buy a house, which is his reasoning for the extra work. I've almost accepted we'll be renting for the next couple of years at least by which point teenagers may have left home. Doesn't this all seem pointless? And if I'm at breaking point shouldn't he just help? He thinks I'm being short sighted and unappreciative of his hard work. I think his priorities are all wrong. We are literally arguing every second about it!