My husband told me he wants a divorce

[StrawberryPuff]

It’s been coming a while. We’ve been struggling for a long time. Glued together with a combination of hope and denial the last few years. We’ve spoken about it before but always reconciled in tears because we couldn’t face life without each other.

It’ll be amicable enough. No kids, enough for us both to get a flat and some money to start us off.

But I’m still devastated. We’ve been together 12 years.l: married ten. I can’t stop crying. I miss him so much already.

Hand hold from OP. I’ve been there. Even if the relationship isn’t great it’s still a loss. It’s a loss of the future you were expecting, the dreams you hoped for and the security you felt. You need time to grieve. It will get easier. Let the tears flow and go at your own pace. You will know when you are ready to move on. I was in an abusive relationship but I still grieved when it ended. Although I was relieved to be free, I still mourned the hopes and dreams. What you are going through is a normal process. 💐

Thank you. Apery to hear you were in an abusive relationship.

All I ever wanted was for us to live one another and be a family. We came so close. But just not compatible really.

Been there too OP, I know how you feel. We were together ten years and although only married for 2 I felt such a failure. It was all quite amicable and I still wish him well, he wasn't a great husband but he was a decent guy and we just grew to be very different people. People said I should celebrate when the divorce came through but that's just not how I felt, I felt like I had failed and I was really disappointed in myself.

Less than two years after our divorce was finally I married my DH, we have been married for 7 years and have three children. We are really happy and he is just the right person for me.

Love is out there and you will move on, believe it or not. But let yourself hurt, it's ok to feel terrible, it's normal.

That’s about the size of it mistermagpie decent guy but not a great husband, I like to think I’m decent too but just not cut out to be a wife really.