Partner Always Looking Elsewhere

[love15]

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Partner has always looked elsewhere - messaging girls online/Facebook/general social media...

Been together 9.5 years.

I believe drink/drugs to be the problem.

I have to walk away right or can this be fixed?

He has made his position clear
Drugs and alcohol mean more than you do

Sadly OP you will have to 'deal' with the other side of him forever. If you have been with him for 10 years this wont come as such a shock for you. He hasn't changed all this time and you have chosen to stay with him all that time he has had a wondering eye. The question shouldn't be can he be fixed but can you be fixed?

Look, you can go back if you want to. Have more babies with him. What bliss.

But if you do, stop letting it bother you whether he chases other women and that he's a drinker and drug user and treats you with disrespect. Just let it go. Let him do what he wants. Stop crying and getting angry or upset about it. Stop policing him. You're only making yourself miserable.

While at 6 your dd may not be aware of what daddy gets up to, in a few years time she will be.

You also need to bear in mind that addicts spiral downwards. What his body and mind can shrug off in his 30/40s will start to kick his arse later on.

And remember you are modelling relationships to your dd. Would you want her raising a family with such a man?

You are only 33, young enough to start over. Easily.

He does not deserve you. You can't fix him. You can fix yourself by getting out and, in time, working in why you have put up with this. That's what you can fix.

He has no respect for you as a life partner. It's done. Concentrate on moving forwards as co-parents to your DD.

This is a very hard situation to be in. @love15 I wish you well.