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[TreadmillMom]

I am married with 2 DSs aged 4 and 2 and work 3 days a week.
Have posted on Mumsnet before complaining that my DH very rarely allows me a lie in at weekends as he's always in the flaming bed.
Anyway, Saturday he gets up at 12pm, Sunday at 10:30am I go upstairs get into bed and ask if he?ll get up and look after the kids so I can have a little lie in.
His response, you?ll love this, ?I DO WORK FULL TIME YOU KNOW!?
Didn?t get my lie in AGAIN!

Either get a bad case of flu/sickness for a weekend and make him get up with the children or still do your family times at weekends but do it in the mornings and gp without him. When you get home sit with children discussing/laughing about the fun you have just had.

Don't do housework at the weekend including cooking if he says anything just tell him that like him you don't work at the weekends .

I would also go back tp bed when he gets up at lunchtime and leave him to deal with the children all afternoon.

DH got a ticking off yesterday; his mom and partner came over for their Sunday dinner. I was running around as usual. Sorting DS1 schoolwork, ironing, emptying and loading the washer etc. What a meal I cooked though...anyway DH was chilling, even MILs partner came into the kitchen and helped me finish off and dish up!
MIL said, 'You're very busy',
I said, 'I'm always like this, I'm trying to get as much as I can outta the way so I'm not stood on my feet at 10pm tonight'.
'Oh', she said, nodding.
After dessert, she turned to her son and said, 'You're not doing enough for this girl'.
DH looked at me and said, 'What have you been saying?'
'Nothing', I say.
'I can just tell,' says his mom
The air was a bit tense and DHs face was scarlet.
'Look at his face,' I say, 'I haven't said anything'.
'Well why are you looking guilty? His mom asked, 'Do you offer your help and do for her as much as you can?'
'Mom man, leave me alone.'
He bursts out laughing, embarrassed.
'Ah so you are guilty? Look your mommy in the eye and tell me you don't leave her to look after them kids and the house whilst you lie in bed, you can't can you? You'd better look after that girl, she needs lots of rest, she's been through allot, you got a good wife there, have you seen some of the chav's walking around, you wanna count yourself lucky and do whatever it takes to make sure she doesn't end back in hospital (I was very poorly over the summer)', all the while wagging her finger in his face.
'Yes mom, yes mom.'
How I was gloating inside.
She then did the dishes, ah.

Great MIL

Grrr, at your DH!!
Agree with Pretty Candles, remind him that you currently work 7 days a week as opposed to his 5.
He can't seriously believe that looking after two children full-time isn't work. If he does then he needs to try a day or two working as a full-time parent, soon sort him out.
I do let my DP lie-in because he is unbearable if he doesn't have enough sleep, and he has trouble sleeping at night, but I get into bed for a nap after lunch and he gets up.
Oh and I quite often go off for walks and things with my little boy, which I love. I would rather go out early, just the two of us, than go out with old grumpy knickers.
He obviously knows he isn't doing much, perhaps you could reduce your washload by only washing your own and your childrens' clothing. Or make lunch for the three of you before he gets up and then go out somewhere nice and leave him to it.

Treadmill you are BLESSED to have such a nice and considerate MIL

what a mil!!! wow! breath of fresh air.

now he'd BETTER take on board what she said. at least you've got an ally there. and i'm sure she'll be keeping a watch out.

next time it's your turn for your lie in, get the bucket of cold water ready, slam it over his head, at the bit where he says he works full time. then get dressed, storm out the house and go and have a coffee somewhere. just leave everything. the kids will be fine for 2 hours, but it'll give him food for thought.

Lucky you with your MIL !! My DH sounds very similar to yours. Mine frequently says "I've been working" as an excuse for not doing things. (I work full time in exactly the same job as he does). He recently had the cheek to say that he was knackered after looking after DD and that he had't had a day off for weeks (we work opposite shifts so we can look after DD on our days off each). HAd to remind him that I hadn't either then if he was going to say that a day off work but looking after DD wasn't a day off. Where do they get these ideas from ??

Me and my DH both work. I work three days a week and look after DS the other two. He works five days a week. We have one lie-in a week - mine is Saturday, his is Sunday. This is a completely sensible and fair arrangement and any man who claims he needs more sleep cos he 'works' two days more than you is talking complete bollocks. Tell him calmly how things are going to be from now on.