Just left partner support thread anyone?

[Cactuslove]

So two weeks ago I found out my partner of 6 years had been cheating on me. I finally found out he had met a woman and had sex with her when I was 9months pregnant with our second child. I had to find this all out for myself as he seemed keen to withhold as much info as possible.

Moving forwards- I asked him to leave the home and he comes back two nights per week to look after kids and I go to my parents.

Parents are supportive as is rest of family and friends. And my kids (ds2 and ds6months) are beautiful.

I feel generally OK about it all and will never go back. But just have periods of feeling so bloody fed up. I mean I had kids with him as I wanted a family and imagined a future with him in it. It's just all so sad!

Anyhow anyone in the same boat and want some company on the journey?

So sorry Op that's horrid. It's been two weeks and still very raw, to say that you generally feel OK about it and will never go back means you're being strong. You will heal in time and you'll hardly ever think about it eventually. Do you have friends to talk to? x

Me! Ended my relationship 2 weeks ago after 6 years together. I took him back last year after a few months of separation.

Long story short; pain in the arse ex wife, messaging other women, drink problems which then turned into toxic rows. And the joke is he thinks some of it’s my fault!! His friend even said to him “well yes you’re stupid messaging other women but it was toxic between you” er duh toxic BECAUSE of messaging other women AND bowing to constant guilt trips from ex wife!!

It’s been hard and I get my moments of doubt, but feeling a little better each day.

Me! Just left another emotionally avoidant man who made me feel crazy for wanting things like meeting his friends (post-lockdown, obvs), consistency, enthusiasm, anything that might be an obligation for him really. So nice to be made to feel like a chore!

Still in the gut-gnawing wobble stage.

I'll join you... have a 6 year old DD.

Feeling awful as we speak x

First time posting on Mumsnet. I have just broken up with someone who I loved very much. He was becoming very controlling.

I am struggling so so hard not to just message and ask can we please give things another go.

I haven’t slept or eaten much in days and just want to cry all the time xx

@SpreadYourWingsAndFly - me too x

It’s horrible isn’t it? I know if I message I will just get more abuse. It’s breaking my heart x

He walked out 3 days ago. 16 years together, we'd been arguing, I'm being ignored on phone. Feeling a bit numb but rather calm. I'm sorry for us all.

Hi all! Thank you so much for responding.

Everything you have all written really resonates. And it is so nice to speak to.people experiencing similar emotions. Friends and family are great but I just find myself putting a smile on as if all is OK.

Exdp is at the house form this morning to Friday morning to have the kids. They love him. But it's so long to be away from a nearly 3yr old and 6month old. I feel so fed up and angry and sad that I have to be separated from them when I have done nothing wrong!!

Also I struggle with him looking and sounding and acting the same when I have learnt so much I feel he should suddenly look like a monster.

I'm at my parents and I've just shut myself away.

For those of you that have left like me- stay strong- we did it for a reason although ita easy to forget sometimes! Also emotionally abusive men need to be left- don't falter! You've been strong enough to do the hardest bit. Hope you're all safe.

Thanks again for replying and I hope this thread helps us all in some way xx