How do i move on?

[ChiChi16]

I'm really struggling with moving on after my marriage breakdown. He has been staying in a local hotel for the past 5 weeks and has asked to come home so he can see DD17, he wants us to live as separated but has said he will be civil towards me. I have said this does not work for me and I wont be able to get over the end of our marriage when he is still living in the house...this is causing a lot of arguments..
I wake up every morning wanting to speak to him, everything I do during the day he is on my mind, I clean the house having conversations in my head with him and I go to sleep at night thinking of him. Its taken a while but i have been able to go at least 5 days without calling him but its been very hard.
How do I move on? I have no motivation to do anything, I don't want to do anything...the hot weather does not help and I suffer with anxiety so am limited to what i can do (i can't drive on motorways, i can't ride the underground etc ).
Will I ever wake up one day and he's not the first thing on my mind? I've been with him for 30 years (married for 23 years). I love him but his EA and treatment towards me after has been horrible and I feel I no longer know him. How has he moved on so quickly? He stopped calling me about 3 months ago, we only talk if i call him.
How do I get over him?

You are getting over him, every day, you just don't realise it yet. Everytime he doesnt call you, you are learning to live without him and will ultimately become stronger as a result. Remember, these are the hard days. People who cheat rarely feel anything straight away and you do ALL the suffering. His is yet to come. One day you won't need to call him and you won't want to. He will feel your absence then, and if he never does (which i seriously doubt) you will already be happier and have found a better life for yourself. Believe in yourself xx

I am so sorry your going through this I know how hard it is, you are right I often find mornings are the worst its that part where before I get out of bed I want to tell my wife I love her or just give her a cuddle and then I need to forcefully remind myself how she's hurt me.

What I would say is try avoid living in the same house if you can, I am doing this with my wife whilst she dates the OM and I can tell you its absolutely hell. Its been nearly 18 months and I think with her still living here I have found it incredibly hard to move on. There is no quick way route to get over someone you love I am afraid, it can be a long and difficult process but keep in the back of your mind you will get there given time.

Its very difficult when someone you love just goes cold it takes a lot of time to try and understand how someone can do that to you but I would say that its best to not try and analyse him, I know its a cliche but its not you its him. Like all marriages I am sure there where issues and things could have been better BUT destroying supposedly someone you have loved isn't the way to do it, so again that's on him.

Take care of yourself and if you need to speak to your Dr see about counselling and perhaps something to level off your emotions, I am a man and I have no problems or same or shyness about saying I have been on antidepressants for a few months and trust me I am a pretty logical person that is able to handle most of what life has thrown at me BUT this was something else.

Good luck and I hope things get better soon.