Not sure if he actually wants to be with me?

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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 years and he hardly shows me any affection. I can't help but think that he stays with me because we have a house and kids together. We don't go out together or have any fun. How do I tell if he is only with me for convenience or if he actually loves me?

Do you feel loved ?

Therein lies your answer.

I've just recently split with my partner of 8 years, same situation as yours, no affection no quality time etc. Everything and everyone else was a priority except us, I can't see it now but I know I deserve better, as do you. Life's too short. Get rid of him and focus on you and you're children before you end up like me

Loving someone is an action, you show it in the way you treat someone. I've been married for 25 years, and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that my husband adores me. He shows me by his actions all the time. I have never doubted for a second if he loves me.

You know your relationship is in serious trouble and massively lacking. Life is too short to live that way.

You could ask him.

This is one of the reasons I ended it with my ex. He never showed any affection unless I initiated it and even then he rarely reciprocated. For the nine years we were together I always felt like we were just friends who had sex. He didn’t adore me, he didn’t show me he loved me unless you count fixing things for me every now and again. I felt unloved and lonely . Especially when I knew he was capable of being affectionate- he was very affectionate with his daughter and his dog.