People who have got into relationships

[Itried88]

In the last 5 years. How did you meet?

On Facebook.
On dating site.
Through work.
Out in pubs/clubs
At a party or event
On a random walk/outing
Through hobby?
Other?

I have found myself alone at 32 with two young kids. I'm just curious how people meet these days? I only use Facebook and I'm attracting platers or men obsessed with nudes.

Curious to see how people have met in recent years due to all the online stuff. Thanks.

My last partner and my recent partner I met through learning to play the drums

I met mine through a friend but also through shared interests.

Tinder.

I'm recently single again as circumstances meant I couldn't continue with my ex but in 3.5 years of dating, the closest I got to a real prospect (in fact there were 2 potentials but I picked the one I liked better!) was on match. Free apps were a bit of a waste of time tbh, not all dismal weirdos but a lot of guys unsure what they actually wanted and many time wasters. I actually wish I'd signed up to a paid site earlier.

Through volunteering for the same organisation.

The last time I dated I met my then husband at a friends barbeque.
I was looking for dates but won't use dating sites as I don't know those people from adam so I joined everything and went to everything.

Shared hobby.

I met my boyfriend last July on Tinder. He's great. I was just using the app to meet up with randomers cos I was lonely. Then I found a fitty and my carelessness attracted him.

Online dating...well, I say 'dating'! In truth it was a sex/hook-up site as it suited my then circumstances. Not one for love at first sight/soulmates and all that but I knew within 30mins that we were more than a hook-up...we have our 3rd wedding anniversary this month

Agh love the variety. I'm terrified of online dating. It just doesn't appeal to me at the moment. I almost feel like I'd be fighting to prove I'm better than the others.
I much prefer the idea of meeting in the flesh. But I don't go clubbing or have hobbies as my kids are young and my circumstances. But I do go out and about with friends and things. Just wandering if I'll ever connect with anyone now.

What is a plater?

I met my now DH whilst getting a tattoo we didn't know eachother but we were both getting them done at same time, we could see eachother through the windows haha. Few weeks later he popped up on my suggested friends on FB (we know some of the same people) so I added him, he popped up on chat saying are you the one I saw at the tattoo place? We started chatting from there!

5 years ago now I was also alone with 2 young kids when we met! He has been an amazing addition to all our lives.

Other - work related extended network.

You should look into your professional network more (not immediate colleagues) but professional associations, events etc. Even online events. Dates may not come out of it straightaway, but you will get to know people and make connections that can become romantic, or friendships, or work related.

I have done online dating for a bit and it’s weird and poor ROI for the invested time.

I met my boyfriend through a shared-interest facebook group, not a dating one. It was based on a mutual interest. We would never have met in real life as live 350 miles apart! While dating him, I was asked out my a man I was giving directions to last week who was much younger than me. Not interested, but I suppose it is flattering in some way. I also had a man ask me for my phone number last weekend when I needed directions and we just got chatting. To be fair, I don't make much effort with my appearance right now and no spring chicken either. If I was single, I may have been tempted with man at train station. I know online dating apps work for some people, but I have heard so many bad stories I wouldn't both if I was single again.

Through work - he was my supervisor, and we hit it off straight away. My marriage had recently ended, which was my decision (although still living together due to kids/finances and Covid 🙄).

We started off as really good friends. We admitted we'd had deeper feelings for each other for a while, and it went from there.

He's amazing and the best person I know. He's loved and supported me through illness, grief, and many other shit times. He makes me cry with laughter, and there's nothing we can't tell each other. We never run out of things to talk about, and it's a world away from the drudgery and mistrust that was the basis of my marriage.

I wouldn't change a thing. He's absolutely my best friend and the love of my life.

At least on a dating site you know people are mostly there because they want something serious (esp on paid sites) compared to just bumping into some rando who might have a partner or not want a relationship

I met my partner at work as I had just recently moved into a different team and he was in the office a lot so was one of the few people I knew to talk to on the days I was in

Work. I was actually marrying someone else at the time and my current dp saw me marry and divorce them before we got together!

On holiday. He was a waiter in the hotel. We're now married.

I tried online dating but it was hard work. It's just not the same as feeling the spark when your not expecting it.

I met mine in tinder. Unmatched men I thought unlikely to fit into my life, got to him, kept him as a match. He's lovely. All those years he was about nine miles away.

I'd also recommend music venues, open mics, local music scene. LOADS of men at those places. I went to a blue guitar gig, the amount of men in their 40s and 50s.

Initially on a dating app but before we'd arrange a date we'd bumped into each other in a bar. Granted, we probably wouldn't have spoken that night if we didn't already 'know' each other through Hinge.

The guy before that worked in the office above mine in the same building. Would not recommend. It all went south after about 8 months and the first few months after were awful when I'd see him every day (or at least know he was in the building with his car being outside).

I met my dp on a dating app I'd seen him briefly at a friends out about 4 years previous to that , we got talking as he recognised me and I have never laughed so much in my life at someone we just hit it off, we talked non stop for a few days then met up for coffee and we had our first kiss it was like being a teenager again we were both smitten and after both leaving very toxic relationships a few years before we met had been wary but tgtr everything felt right we have been tgtr for 3 years now. Our children all get on so we are lucky in that aspect and we have similar outlooks so deal with any drama tgtr from ex partners. We are getting married next year and I am more than confident I have met my ' one' never felt anything like it , good luck op xxxx

My partner and I met 2 years ago as we lived in the same building, and he helped me out with a flat tyre. Just bought a house together 😊

My best friends kitchen. I was recently separated with 3 kids. Mid 30s.

I went in and started blabbering about something totally inappropriate for strangers. She laughed and asked if I had met her brother and pointed to the corner of the kitchen where her brother was making a coffee. He laughed. I felt mortified but noticed his smile and thought 'oh wow and I said Hi, a few minutes later me and her left.

Then he was at her house more and more. We became friends. Now been together 4 years.

I had tired online dating the thought of actually meeting up with someone filled me with fear. It's really not for me. Some of the messages just made me want to be sick.

The worst being 'we should eat together....
I have a hankering for your pussy' and that was the opening message.