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Anyone know anything about missed call notification?

46 replies

agoodtime · 19/07/2021 10:20

Does anyone know how missed call notification comes up on iPhone from a One phone? Normally when I get a missed call from DH it says his name, followed by 'iPhone' on my phone. Recently got one stating his name followed by 'One'.

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Lou98 · 19/07/2021 11:36

I've never seen a phone come up with the notification 'one' on my iPhone - as above its not one of the options when saving a new contact.

To be honest, I think him having two phones and leaving one at work etc is a bit far fetched, although of course we don't know your partner like you do.
I think though if a missed call notification has you questioning things so much then there are bigger problems in your relationship that you need to address with your partner, there's obviously no trust there on your side (which is understandable with his previous) but he's you shouldn't be this worried about a notification. You need to talk to him and decide whether you think the relationships worth keeping

HappyGirl86 · 19/07/2021 11:36

Do you often ring him and the phone goes to voicemail? That would happen if he was switching to another number right?

Onthedunes · 19/07/2021 11:37

That is strange, I used to wonder about my husbands phone, most of the time it came up with his name when he called but sometimes just his number came up without his name on my i phone.

Never figured that one out.
He always seemed pretty blustery going on about coverage when that happened as though he'd made some sort of error.

I would imagine it's possible to have a second sim and switch between 2 phones and leave one at one location.

Bargebill19 · 19/07/2021 11:43

Can’t do it. You either have different sims with different numbers or you have multiple
Sims with the same number which have been ordered from the supplier of the network eg O2 or virgin etc. The one you pay your phone bill too.
You can’t just buy a phone and select it to have the same number. If you walked into a shop a picked up a SIM card, you don’t get to choose the number. You can buy a phone and order a sim from your network provider and ask for it to be the same number eg a replacement sim for an existing sim/number both sims will then work on the same number. We’ve also done that when a phone went in the water, and wouldn’t work, we thought it was the sim - it wasn’t the sim was fine but the phone was dead. Ended up with two working sims.

NiceTwin · 19/07/2021 11:44

Thank you @Bargebill19 for your explanation, I had cab as taxi in my head, it all sounded quite exciting.
The real tramping is much more mundane Grin

Bargebill19 · 19/07/2021 11:44

My post was meant for op. Sorry

Bargebill19 · 19/07/2021 11:46

@NiceTwin. Whenever I say the word tramping - an image of dh dressed as a tram trudging the open roads pops into my head 🤣

agoodtime · 19/07/2021 11:50

@Onthedunes

That is strange, I used to wonder about my husbands phone, most of the time it came up with his name when he called but sometimes just his number came up without his name on my i phone.

Never figured that one out.
He always seemed pretty blustery going on about coverage when that happened as though he'd made some sort of error.

I would imagine it's possible to have a second sim and switch between 2 phones and leave one at one location.

@Onthedunes did his behaviour towards you seem off or was his behaviour variable when you experienced this?
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agoodtime · 19/07/2021 11:53

Thank you for the info about two working SIMs @Bargebill19

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TheLeadbetterLife · 19/07/2021 11:55

I think your theory makes sense OP. He’s got previous, he knows you can track his location and he’s going to work unnecessarily.

He could easily have a second phone with the same number and another number.

Either way, it’s obvious you have a gut feeling about it.

Bargebill19 · 19/07/2021 11:56

Hope it all works out for you op.

Bargebill19 · 19/07/2021 12:02

@TheLeadbetterLife a dual sim phone would get around the tracking problem, but would still require him to obtain a replacement or additional sim from his service provider. He couldn’t swap the sim in and out of his first phone, as the tracking would definitely be switched off if he did. This rendering it a pointless waste of effort.

agoodtime · 19/07/2021 12:03

@TheLeadbetterLife

I think your theory makes sense OP. He’s got previous, he knows you can track his location and he’s going to work unnecessarily.

He could easily have a second phone with the same number and another number.

Either way, it’s obvious you have a gut feeling about it.

I never thought about the fact he might have a dual SIM second phone. He had a dual SIM android phone before a few years ago and I was none the wiser at the time. I do have a gut feeling yeah but at the same time I'm confused because he is so genuine when we're together. When he's been at work he can sometimes seem a bit 'off' but that goes after a while so could be work stress. Why can't I shake this gut feeling Sad
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Hopingforabagofbuttons · 19/07/2021 12:08

I think that when you are giving this much headspace into all the where’s and whys of something that could easily be a technical glitch, your relationship is in deep trouble. If you have a gut feeling something is off then it probably is.

Onthedunes · 19/07/2021 12:09

When this happened he was probably overly nice, that was always a sign of lying when he was nice. Then if anything was questioned anger and defence mode.

Women can usually read their husband's like a book.

It's funny how these glitches on phones only seem to happen when there is another woman on the scene.
And these men always seem to plead ignorance of phone technology.

Go to a local phone shop and ask them, not the big retailers.

Hopingforabagofbuttons · 19/07/2021 12:13

MN should have taught you something. So many posts from women and men saying how they’re OH has continually denied cheating and claim to love them, even as they’re packing up their bags to leave for OM/OW. It seems appearing to be genuine and being genuine are entirely different things unfortunately.

Nightlystroll · 19/07/2021 12:16

Who knows whether it's innocent or not, but if you get such anxiety over a phone call, why are you still with him? If he's guilty, he's going to leave you. If he's innocent, you going to make him leave you. I'm not saying this to be mean but if there's no trust, your relationship is already over. Look for someone you can be happy with.

TheLeadbetterLife · 19/07/2021 12:25

[quote Bargebill19]@TheLeadbetterLife a dual sim phone would get around the tracking problem, but would still require him to obtain a replacement or additional sim from his service provider. He couldn’t swap the sim in and out of his first phone, as the tracking would definitely be switched off if he did. This rendering it a pointless waste of effort.[/quote]
Yes, but if the OP is tracking him via Find My iPhone, couldn't he have the actual sim on a different phone but still be logged in to Apple ID on the iPhone, which is sitting on his desk? Does Find My iPhone track the number, or the device which is logged in on Apple?

agoodtime · 19/07/2021 12:29

@Hopingforabagofbuttons

MN should have taught you something. So many posts from women and men saying how they’re OH has continually denied cheating and claim to love them, even as they’re packing up their bags to leave for OM/OW. It seems appearing to be genuine and being genuine are entirely different things unfortunately.
I know that but I feel as though this situation is different. I can't really describe it. It's the sort of gut feeling I think a woman would get if her partner had committed to the marriage following his affair but was having some difficulty giving up the AP for whatever reason.
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Hopingforabagofbuttons · 19/07/2021 12:40

I understand what you are saying, I’m not judging you at all believe me, I’ve been there in the past with a relationship, every little thing that didn’t make perfect sense had me second guessing myself. Did my head in.
If he is struggling giving up the AP then he’s not fully committed to the marriage . If one of the conditions of staying together was that he finishes up every contact with AP immediately he’s breaking that commitment. I feel for you,

Bargebill19 · 19/07/2021 15:18

@TheLeadbetterLife

No he can’t. To do tracking on an iPhone the sim must be installed and it must be connected to the network. Removing the sim or switching it off renders it non trackable .

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