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Does this look like a lipstick stain on his t shirt?

36 replies

Loui98 · 19/07/2021 09:18

Hi. I’ve broken up with my ex bf and was getting rid of some of his stuff and found these marks on an old t shirt of his. He would never go out in this t shirt and just uses it for painting around the house etc but I’ve found what looks like a lipstick mark on his sleeve???!! The mark is on the sleeve in a straight line and is nowhere else. There’s gaps between the marks so I can’t tell if it does look like a lipstick mark or not… obviously he’s an ex but would be nice to know if he had been cheating all this time!

Does this look like a lipstick stain on his t shirt?
OP posts:
iwilldoitsoon · 19/07/2021 14:54

@Googlewasmyidea1

Why does it matter? You've broken up right

This. Why you go questioning him? Bring yourself up a level and move on without letting him think he has anything over you.

ScabbyHorse · 19/07/2021 14:55

Looks like food to me something like berries.

Original poster
Loui98 · 19/07/2021 16:33

I broke up with him on Friday & it’s not a case of me being hung up on him or anything like that. Surely if someone had been cheating on you, youd want to know.

OP posts:
EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 19/07/2021 16:48

Nah, I'd want to not know.

Comedycook · 19/07/2021 16:50

Really doesn't look like lipstick to me

Comedycook · 19/07/2021 16:51

I think lipstick is waxy and sort of sits on the surface, that looks like it's soaked into the fibres.

layladomino · 20/07/2021 07:29

Same as others have said - would he have worn that top when out with someone? Why would the lipstick be on the sleeve? If he used it to wipe off some lipstick I don't think it would stain like that (or so much).

But mostly - the fact you've jumped to it being lipstick suggests you were looking for something to assuse him off / don't trust him.

Whichever way, you've split anyway, so it won't change anything. If you're embarrased by the message you sent, and if things are reasonably friendly between you, pretend you sent it in jest. If they aren't, then just don't mention it again, and if he brings up just wave your hand and say 'you know what don't worry about it, it doesn't matter anyway'.

OceanTurtles · 20/07/2021 07:41

@Loui98

I broke up with him on Friday & it’s not a case of me being hung up on him or anything like that. Surely if someone had been cheating on you, youd want to know.
If I was with them, yes.

Not if we had broken up. Couldn't care less.

stellaisabella · 20/07/2021 08:00

No that's not lipstick, honestly you need to let this go 😬

thinlinelovenhate · 27/04/2026 08:52

Does this look like lipstick 2 u guys ? I’m the man in this same situation (not the exact same situation but a similar one) and my girlfriend Wich I’m really in love(but starting to be real turned off by due to how much I feel she’s accusing me because she has a guilty conscience) with found this shirt while doing my laundry and she swears it’s lipstick but I kno it isn’t for the simple fact that I haven’t cheated on her …. I just want some opinions to c if other ppl think it even looks like lipstick . I kno what it is , it’s a mixture of over spray mist and my fingerprint being whipped on my shirt from a red color rustoleum spray paint can. I kno this because my entire outfits I wore that day got paint on it and I even showed her both my pants and grey sweatshirt that have the same color paint on them but she says that’s a different paint and still insisted to Its lipstick and now she wants to act even angrier because she thinks I haven’t cheated added to my wrong doings by not only cheating but cheating and lying about it and making up a whole story to cover it deeming me an unfaithful man and making her unwilling to reconsider us breaking up …..

Does this look like a lipstick stain on his t shirt?
Does this look like a lipstick stain on his t shirt?
Does this look like a lipstick stain on his t shirt?
Does this look like a lipstick stain on his t shirt?
Beenwhereyouareagain · 27/04/2026 20:26

thinlinelovenhate · 27/04/2026 08:52

Does this look like lipstick 2 u guys ? I’m the man in this same situation (not the exact same situation but a similar one) and my girlfriend Wich I’m really in love(but starting to be real turned off by due to how much I feel she’s accusing me because she has a guilty conscience) with found this shirt while doing my laundry and she swears it’s lipstick but I kno it isn’t for the simple fact that I haven’t cheated on her …. I just want some opinions to c if other ppl think it even looks like lipstick . I kno what it is , it’s a mixture of over spray mist and my fingerprint being whipped on my shirt from a red color rustoleum spray paint can. I kno this because my entire outfits I wore that day got paint on it and I even showed her both my pants and grey sweatshirt that have the same color paint on them but she says that’s a different paint and still insisted to Its lipstick and now she wants to act even angrier because she thinks I haven’t cheated added to my wrong doings by not only cheating but cheating and lying about it and making up a whole story to cover it deeming me an unfaithful man and making her unwilling to reconsider us breaking up …..

You know the truth. Stop letting her control the narrative. It sounds like breaking up would be a positive step for you. Being with someone who questions your faithfulness with no reason is devastating to your soul.

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