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heartbrokenn · 19/07/2021 06:17

I don't even know where to begin here but I need opinions I have been with my man for almost 8 years we where as happy as can be and I am having our second baby soon we have always spoken about how we both hate people that cheat/stray from a relationship and I honestly thought he would never dream of doing anything like that till yesterday when I went to use his phone to search something quickly and it was sitting on a free hook up site that you need an account to get into! I was so angry and hurt but once I calmed down a bit I asked how long he was on it for (didn't know about the make account part at this time) thinking he was going to say only half an hour but turns out he had the account and was on it for a week but swears he did message anyone only looking at dirty photos an bios which still cut me to my core I asked why did he do it he said he didn't know and that all the SINGLE guys at his work where on it hooking up and sending pictures! I told him to leave and he did he wants to try fix things but I am BIG on trust and o don't think I could ever just let this go but until yesterday he was the man of my dreams and I am lost without him

Please please help what would you do?

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Marmaladee · 19/07/2021 06:31

I'm so sorry. That would be a deal breaker for me.

Whatabambam · 19/07/2021 07:49

Not all men do it. That's a blatant lie intended to minimise his behaviour and lock you into the relationship with him (by insinuating that all men do it, then you have to put up with it from anyone else who you might be with). What a load of bollocks. He's an arsehole who is cheating on you. I'm sorry to be so harsh OP.

updownroundandround · 19/07/2021 07:57

I'm so sorry. I agree with PP's, not all men do it, only the cheating lying asshole ones do it. Sad

Total deal breaker for me as well I'm afraid, because once the trust is gone, it's gone forever. If you stay, you'll be forever second guessing his actions and doubting what he says................and that's no way to live imo. Sad

Stigofthedump40 · 19/07/2021 08:00

Just a week? Hmm likely story.. he wants to have sex with someone else, if he hasnt already..

I would find this really hard to get over personally

Outbutnotoutout · 19/07/2021 08:05

Only disrespectful men do it!!

Imjustsootired · 19/07/2021 09:27

He was trying to hook up, wanted a bit of the action his mates are getting.
He would be gone x

Lan2020 · 19/07/2021 09:50

It'll be so hard for you, as like you say; your relationship was very happy apart from this.

Personally I would never get over finding out my partner had done this. I would never trust him and our lives would be Hell. If you know it's something you can't get over then you will find it so difficult to stay in the relationship.

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