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Adviceneeded1986 · 18/07/2021 23:55

So my husband moved abroad for work back in October and things have been very strained as I thought he should have pushed things back a year with the pandemic as I can’t travel to his country as borders are up. Definitely the worst year of our marriage and I’m not sure I’ll ever forgive him. Most conversations end in a fight. Anyway, I bumped into an ex and found myself thinking about him a lot and wishing that I’d done things differently. I reached out to him and he was pretty receptive saying we’d handle the issues and that he had felt similarly but was uncomfortable to date someone married but would like to catch up. We arranged to meet the next day but he backed out and then a couple days later he again suggested we meet but it never happened and I didn’t want to push him. Im dying to talk to him and explain it all and get it all out in the open but also conscious that it’s too much for him. At this point in time, I’m very regretful that I didn’t do things differently snd have thought of him many times in past 10 years wishing things were different. Advice on what to do would be good

OP posts:
spotcheck · 18/07/2021 23:58

Back off
Sort out your marriage first
Sort yourself out
THEN think about dating.

Do you really need the complication the other man will bring?

AgentJohnson · 19/07/2021 04:55

You’re still married but you’re acting like you’re not. Grow the hell up and end your marriage before perusing a new relationship.

Aquamarine1029 · 19/07/2021 04:57

You're acting like a daft school girl. End your marriage if you want to date.

fallfallfall · 19/07/2021 05:06

do the right thing and end your marriage first.

Wjevtvha · 19/07/2021 06:35

Leave the ex alone and concentrate on your marriage; ex’s always look more attractive when you’re having relationship problems but this isn’t the solution.

Stigofthedump40 · 19/07/2021 08:05

You are looking at the ex as someone who will rock up and rescue you but he doesnt sound that interested to be fair.. drop him and keep your dignity. You have a husband.

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