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When you get no emotional support from your husband!

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Feelingdownagain · 18/07/2021 17:54

For the 15 years we have been married, there has been a lack of emotional support from my husband. During bath time, my daughter was messing around, climbing out of the bath, getting water and shampoo over the bathroom floor and after counting her down because she refused to get into the bath, I told her I would be removing her iPad for the time she’s allowed it, I didn’t shout but made it clear her behaviour wasn’t acceptable. Up comes my husband after eventually getting her ready and out of the bath and I told him what happened, he then says ‘I heard and I think everyone else did too, including the neighbours!’ I then told him I didn’t appreciate him saying what he did, to which he replied ‘I can say what I like, it’s free speech!’ It felt so unsupportive and like I’m on my own, which is how I often feel, the lack of emotional support is something I’ve always struggled with and now I’m left feeling upset.

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EarthSight · 18/07/2021 18:05

He used free speech in that context....God......cringe.

I'm not sure if it's emotional support that you need - it's parental support, trust and an agreement on how children should be parented. If he trusted your judgment, I'm not sure if this would be an issue. Seems like you both need to agree on how to actually deal with a child who've misbehaving. Also, if he had an issue about your approach, he should not have said that in front of her as that's undermining you.

Christmasfairy2020 · 18/07/2021 20:34

Tbh I put bubble bath in pool today and washed kids hair with hose pipe as it was boiling at 6pm. Made life easier

Xztop · 18/07/2021 21:51

I had that for 14 years with my ex. Zero support. Nothing. When we split and he left the only thing I missed was him putting the bin out on a Thursday night...

whyMrsRobinson · 18/07/2021 22:05

Xztop omg you’ve just made me realise my Dh doesn’t even do the bins.
Hmmmmm.

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