Age gap and judgement

[fedupwiththeguy]

Talking with a friend yesterday, he made a comment that bothered me.

He was telling me that I may meet someone interesting in a new group I am joining doing my hobby. That made me remember that I have met a man in OLD that had been the national champion of said hobby a couple of times, but that I did not set a date with him because he looked like a kid. He is 30 and I am 38.

My friend then made a comment, horrified of how young this man is, and I should never arrange a date with him. It bothered me, specially given that I am also 8 years apart with me XH and nobody bat an eyelid (because he is the senior). But even more offended since my friend is 51 and he is dating a 27 years old So what the heck was that comment about? Are we still this sexist? I have not said anything about him dating a woman in exchange of gifts (sugardaddy)

@SpongeBobJudgeyPants

I would certainly be rethinking this 'friendship'. IME, far from these men 'aging better', it's always been middle-aged men with beer guts who feel they are entitled to much younger, slimmer women. Is he one of those OP?

yes these are exactly the types of guys who say those types of things

He's essentially paying for a much younger woman to see him?

That tells you everything you need to know.

Why are you friends with him? Based on what you've said he sounds horrible.