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Moolie124 · 17/07/2021 18:44

So I was worh someone for 10 years, we have 3 children together, we spilt up around 3 months ago and now he's with someone else, he comes to my house to see the kids and still treating it like he still lives here, falling asleep in my bed, just sat watching films with he kids on my bed, the relationship wasn't good towards the end and we both needed to change but didnt. Sometimes he's asking me why I couldn't just change when I had the chance, then he will say its to late im sorry,
Hes told me I still mean alot to him, he cares about me alot I'm his family, and he didn't want to break the family up but it was getting to much which I understand, but every few weeks where going through the same 'talk about us'
We do argue when he's here sometimes and he says stuff like this is why I don't wanna be with you & Sunday he told me whats the point him coming back when it's just arguing.
My head is so confused because I don't no what he is trying to do, like I have no hope he will come back and make it work I've already tried that approach and he will ignore it or say he asked us to change and I didn't blah, I just don't no what to do anymore!

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litterbird · 17/07/2021 19:29

First of all put massive boundaries in, He is not to come to your house to see the children. He takes them at the door and goes and has a lovely day with them somewhere. Do you want him back? Why would you want him back? He's already moved on so its time for you to move on. No more conversations at all about you or him, it is from now strictly about the children. You are over and he has gone. Pull your big pants up and be strong and stop arguing and stop listening to him go on about the pair of you. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.

Cherrysoup · 17/07/2021 22:49

He doesn’t get to enter the house. Have some self respect!

TheFoundations · 17/07/2021 22:54

1.Tell him you've moved on from the relationship

  1. Discuss with him suitable times for him to see the kids
  2. Tell him you don't want to see him other than when he picks them up and drops them off.

I wonder if his new romantic interest knows he's having these conversations with you?

Moolie124 · 18/07/2021 05:02

Hi no she doesn't know, he says to message om WhatsApp if I am going to message

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QueenBee52 · 18/07/2021 05:52

STOP...

read all the advice above and get him the hell out of your home. He can take the kids to his place from now on.

What a manipulative sick Prick.

Be strong OP.. 🌸

girlmom21 · 18/07/2021 06:13

He's always going to keep you hanging on if you keep letting him carry on like before.

It's never going to work between you. Don't let him in anymore. Set up proper contact between him and the kids.

Tiramiwho · 18/07/2021 06:23

He absolutely should not be back in your house 'seeing the children' and trying to worm his way back into your bed ( oh, I forgot - he's already back there Confused ) He collects them at your front door from now on and drops them off there too.
This is not fair on his new partner! What a creepy little sleaze your ex is! Angry

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