What has abuse done to your physical health?

[Fightingback16]

I know a lot about the mental health side of things but my physical health is slowly deteriorating years after, lots of things going wrong relating to stress apparently.

I read that narcissists can really only be left one of two ways, the narcissist rejects you for someone else or you have a breakdown. It really does bring home how dangerous they are. For me it was a breakdown.

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Leaving is never easy. It's always difficult and there will always be a reason why "now is not the right time". All it does is allow more damage to occur and make it harder to leave.

Do you really think people who've been through it themselves think it's easy? Of course not.

We just can't bear seeing people stuck and suffering like we were.

There is no perfect time where it will suddenly be easy. It's better to just get it done so you can start recovering.

This

It's so painful watching someone in it. Worse when they get out of it, the headaches, anxiety etc disappear and then he charms his way back in and before you know it they are back to being broken and even worse they can't tell you anything because you helped them get out so now you are the enemy of their special love. Or deep down they know you know and don't want to face you. I've been on both sides of it. It's awful to be in and awful to watch.

Obesity
Anorexia
Scalp constantly has sores
Fractured ribs
Broken toe
Chipped Knee Caps
Ptsd
Generalised Anxiety Disorder
Depression
Bowel problems

Hard to say exactly as I was already sick when we met. For a long time I'd say his presence in my life had a positive impact. The last few years it's caused me to over eat, and made my pain, anxiety and bowel issues a lot worse.

PTSD
Memory problems from behind hit in the head
Back injuries
Nerve damage
Drug abuse- although I'm clean and sober now, it took years
A tic

So little of narcissistic abuse is known in this country.

Can you recover from autoimmune illnesses that are caused by stress?

Sending love to all on this thread

I was raised by a pair of alcoholics and sexually abused ash through my teens. Went right into an abusive relationship and had two kids by age 19. Finally got myself sorted. Loads of therapy, got remarried to a wonderful man. Was diagnosed bipolar when pregnant with my 4th and last child. When I had her, within 6 months I had a diagnosis of psoriatic arthritis and rheumatoid arthritis. Followed quickly by lupus and sjogrens. I'm early 40s now and still suffering but also have horrific chronic sinusitis and persistent MRSA infections in my Sunday's that nothing , not even surgery , can fix.

I don't think I'm bipolar anymore although I display a huge amount of the symptoms. I think mine is much more seasonal affective disorder and complex ptsd.

Other than the anxiety and depression, physical problems include a torn shoulder muscle which is the bane of my life at times and a depression in my skull. I am also very poorly coordinated and wonder if that might be as a result of being shaken

As a result of extended childhood SA I have / had ...
2 suicide attempts (long time ago now, but still feel ashamed that I tried to do it)
Autoimmune disease (incurable)
Physically compromised (cannot use the toilet normally therefore a daily reminder)
Body dysmorphia (now a bit better than it was)
Social anxiety (especially in groups with lots of loud males)
PTSD (95% dealt with thanks to a great therapist but still can give me flashbacks)
Compromised sex life

I guess those are the big things, but there are so many more little hurdles and triggers I have struggled with too.

Just also want to send love and strength to anyone who has suffered or continues to suffer.

OMG. This thread is like a light bulb moment.

• migraines
• teeth grinding
• IBS
• broken ribs resulting in a curved spine, constant neck/ back pain, which has lead to prescription drug dependency
• anxiety
• depression