I don't want him to take this new job

[fairytale132]

My partner has been offered another job. Same pay but working 5 days (plus occasional Saturday) instead of the 3 days he works now, long days 7-5 in effect halving his pay because he would be getting the same salary for 5 as he would 3 days except they are long days.
I think this is complete madness, to go from this quality of life working from home, having the freedom to go to the gym, not be leaving from home in the cold wintry mornings at 6am why would you do this?
He states he's sick of the company he's at now even though they do not hassle him and I think he has a pretty easy number.
I am concerned that he'll be tired as one of his days off he volunteers working for his friend and he has said he'll continue this evenings and weekends. I am also upset as it makes me think when will we have our time together, I am used to having him around, I thought he liked this too, he was always on the phone saying how he loved his life balance so I am confused.
I have said how I feel but he says he won't do it without me being happy about it, I then feel trapped because I am damned if I say I am and if I say I am not he'll resent me totally for it, so I can't.
I'm really fed up.

It does sound odd to give up a wfh job where they don't bother him, for less money, more hours, and away from home.

Has he been looking for other work for long?

I know it depends on the type of work he does and what the outlook is for that, but can he wait a bit longer and keep looking for something better? Tap into his network more and see what else is available.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

So you’d rather he was unhappy just so you get time with him? I’d be leaving more than just the job if I were him.

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Being happy at work is important as it's a significant part of one's life. Just because he's 60 doesn't necessarily mean his working life is nearly over, so he has every right to choose what suits him.

However your last post sounds like there may be more to this, on a personal level? I hope you're ok.

It's what he wants to do mentor others, I get that, he still has 7 years to go.
He's admitted we won't have as much time together and then there fitting in his elderly mum who he sees once a week for lunch, he's said that's an issue.
For me I think he's giving up a great wl balance but it's his choice and I've said I'll support what he chooses.

As you pointed out OP, there has been a huge turnover due to bad management, it appears he is not happy there.

I think if he fully explained it more fully you might feel more supportive, if it’s that the company is in trouble or being bought out or it’s changed direction and they’ve suddenly made it full of targets or sales when he isnt that way —— yes I would understand it. If it’s not that and he’s just bored and wants more company (I understand that’s too) could he stay as it is but go back to an office. ?? Otherwise at 60 I would be tempted to stay put to be honest because if he doesn’t like the new job it’s tough getting another good and flexible role post 55 (I am 59)

He could go back to the office but days it's changed so doesn't want to.
He thinks the company will fold by Christmas, I doubt it and think he's trying to scare me...

@fairytale132

He could go back to the office but days it's changed so doesn't want to. He thinks the company will fold by Christmas, I doubt it and think he's trying to scare me...

But he's the one working there. He has more insight into it than you do.

I don't really understand what you think he's got to gain from lying & scaring you?

He wants to change jobs to essentially a worse one in terms of money & hours - there has to be a good reason for that. It makes perfect sense to jump before it goes under.

Could it be a pension issue? Company pension might be worth more for working those additional hours. Would tie in with his line about you keeping him in the future