Starting primary school drama

[Goldenclouds]

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DC1 starting school soon. We live on the boundary of 2 catchments, A and B. We had a place at school A but for various reasons we have applied to change to school B today.

How do I handle it with my friend whose DC1 is going to school A? We were very close when DC were younger. More recently she has been distant and I suspect meeting up with mums from school A without inviting me. Which she is perfectly allowed to do, I'm hurt but I don't begrudge her.

Do I accept that moving school will spell the end of the friendship? How can I tell her? Please help me break the news. I'm rubbish at friendships and once she's gone I actually won't have anyone I could grab a coffee with. Help.

Hi I don’t see any reason why you still can’t be friends while your children attend different schools? Just tell the truth and your reasons for going for the other school. Make sure you keep in touch and set a date for a catch up. If you end up losing contact over this you can’t of been that close and it probably isn’t a friendship worth pursuing anyway. Good luck x

Do I accept that moving school will spell the end of the friendship?

Yes, because if it will really make such an impact on your friendship then clearly you’re not that close and it wasn’t meant to be. Honestly there are plenty of things to take into account and think about when LOs start school, your own friendships shouldn’t be one of them.

Just tell her. There's no other way around it. You have your reasons.
Just try and keep in touch with her, weekly meet ups if you both can etc

Thank you everyone. I think I've always felt closer to her than she has to me. I think she likes that I listen and try to support her. She sometimes does the same back but it's probably 80% about her life most of the time.

You are right I just have to tell her and if she drifts away that's that.

I wish there was an easier way to make friends in adulthood!!

Doesn’t sound like the best friendship if it breaks down as soon as your child goes to a different school. If you need someone to grab a coffee with I’m sure you’ll find some new friends at your child’s school.