Child protection dilemma

[TomAllenWife]

I've name changed for this but I'm in such a difficult position and need some support

DPs ex is a drinker, part of the reason they split was that she would get so drunk and embarrass him that he couldn't go out. Anyway she ended the marriage 4 years ago.

We have been together 3 years and since she's realised we are in it for the long haul she has gone through phases of phoning or texting threatening suicide, how everything is DPs fault, that he doesn't care about her and never did etc etc.
She also got into a fight with a family member and her child got kicked. It's shocking, this is only half of it.

Anyway my problem is that she has started doing this in front of the children (13 & 17), threatens to cut her throat, last nite she said she was going to take a lot of pills then text the 17 year old saying 'you don't need me, take care of your sibling'

I told DP that I am reporting her to children's services today, he agreed, but I'm so worried that the kids will hate me and make life difficult
But I know it's the right thing to do

Just need some support and reassurance really

Why is your DP not sorting this o assuming they are his children? Put the onus on him rather than yourself

Why isnt dp speaking to the kids and asking them to come stay with you both?

You are doing the right thing. Can the DC come and stay with you?

The older child has been with us for over a month due to all this
The younger came over last nite, but will feel guilty and goes home in case mum takes her own life

DP has told her this morning to read the texts from last nite and that the children will be staying with him

Imo ask the police to do a welfare check every time. They will report her to SS I expect... As they should.

I would also get a spare sim card for the children to have contact with mum so at least when she's on a bender it can be switched off and they can still use their phones. Or have a chat with them about blocking when she's on one.

This shouldn't be put on your shoulders to deal with alone. I would also suggest that dad arrange some therapy for the both of them. And for him to let school aware. especially the youngest.

We have just bought a house for us all so hopefully we'll all live there and they will have a normal family life for once

Your partner needs to deal with this. As you are the step parent you are unfortunately the easy target for the kids or his ex to blame. If he does it then it’ll go down better and you can support him and give any information SS require from you. These children are being abused and they need protected but their mum needs support.