so those of you who are divorced, how did you meet.....

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new partners or dh, some of you may know my story (dh divorcing me and expecting me to look for new place before xmas!!) anyway I walked out on him today and left him with dd (to see how he liked it) anyway it was very liberating as I went and ate in a restaurant on my own and had a drink on my own, and I know now that I can cope alone! infact I actually told him a few home truths and pushed him out of the house the fact that he pushed me back is neither here nor there. I know i,m worth so much more!!!!!!!

I was on my own for 6 years and earlier this year started seeing my boss! He is wonderful, does anything for me and loves the kids.

I had been seperated a couple of years from my exh when I met my DH through work, he was doing training on a new system and came to Scotland from England to train staff. I had met him before on previous training sessions but as I was married, I never thought of him that way.
TBH, I had had a couple of on off relationships after I kicked ex out, one through family and one through work. But when I saw DH again, things just "clicked". I had real self esteem issues after ex, turns out he batted for the other side, but wanted a family and saw me as great child bearing potential (must be my hips) . Thankfully we never had kids. Within a year I had gone for a transfer when my office was shutting, and moved down to be with him. Even moved into his parents while we got a house.
In some ways I now look back at the experience with xh, and think that without going through what I did then, I wouldn't have what I have now. I agree I needed some time to find my feet, find "me" again, before I found someone else. I think the key is not to need someome else to provide your happiness, you have to get that for yourself, and for that you need time and no pressure on yourself!
Good luck with the future, it is out there waiting for you, no matter how bleak things seem, believe me!