Feeling depressed months after breakup

[Chloeblue]

So my relationship ended in January after almost 4 years. It was his decision, he told me he'd fallen out of love about a year previously, so he'd basically been stringing me along for a while. Although I'm not crying now as much, I feel really low in myself, have lost interest in things I used to enjoy and just don't feel happy. I realised today I can't remember when I last laughed.

Has anyone been through something similar and is it normal at this stage?

Oh my love. Yes, been through it & it’s normal. Do you have good and bad days or consistently bad?

What helped me break the cycle was starting a project. I redesigned the bathroom & kitchen. I don’t think distractions are the answer but putting your energy elsewhere could help. Also consider a therapist so you can just talk it out over & over until it loses all the power.

You will get over this and be happy again.

I know the feeling it's horrible, there comes a point when you have to try and move on, your ex is getting on with his life how he wants, you need to figure out your new hopes and dreams for the future.
I'm on a dating app, haven't met anyone I like enough yet but it is a distraction which stops me feeling stuck on a ex.

@ThePurplePlace Yes, some good and bad days but I just have a general feeling of low mood now that I can't seem to pull myself out of. It's not that I want him back though - I don't.

How are you feeling now? It's been a while since you last posted.

Overall, I'm feeling much stronger in myself. I haven't cried over him since July and I'm just getting on with things really. The one thing I do miss though is a hobby club we were both members of. I know he has returned, I haven't as I couldn't face it. I don't want to see him or hear anything about him.

That's great to hear. Can you not find a similar hobby club to join? I split from my ex 2 months ago. We have a house to sell that is delayed due to planning issues. I'm so looking forward to the day I don't need to see or speak to him. Time is the best healer.