Should I text him?

[Greedy7]

Hey guys!
I need some advice please!
I was seeing this guy for around 6 weeks, we really connected, there was definitely a spark there. He even talked about our future!
About a week and a half ago he text me telling me that his ex girlfriend had told him she still had feelings for him and he needed time to think as she’s a big part of his life. Without thinking I told him I would bow out gracefully and hoped everything would work out for him! I wish I hadn’t! I cannot stop thinking about him, I was falling for him big time. Should I text him? Or try and get over him? Xxx

No

You haven't heard from him since you said you would bow out?

I would leave it. If he was bothered about losing you he wouldn't have done it in the first place and would have been afraid to leave you to it.

You have done great. You acted with poise, grace and dignity.

Your reaction was perfect. Leave it and if he wants you he will come back.

To you, there were feelings. To him, it sounds as though he's looking back. I'm sorry love xx time to get back out there xx

No, leave it. If he was still keen on you you'd have heard from him.
You might well hear from him when things don't work out with ex and he's at a loose end in a few weeks / months.

Get on with your life.

@Greedy7

Hey guys! I need some advice please! I was seeing this guy for around 6 weeks, we really connected, there was definitely a spark there. He even talked about our future! About a week and a half ago he text me telling me that his ex girlfriend had told him she still had feelings for him and he needed time to think as she’s a big part of his life. Without thinking I told him I would bow out gracefully and hoped everything would work out for him! I wish I hadn’t! I cannot stop thinking about him, I was falling for him big time. Should I text him? Or try and get over him? Xxx

No please don't text him. Probably in 7 weeks he will text you saying it didn't work out. Please don't reply.

He's not realised you're awesome. Which makes him an idiot.

You've done the right thing. Dont be that "something to do' person when they split up again.

Thank you everyone for your advice! You have all been a massive help! I will NOT be messaging him 😊

You sent the right text.

I bet he crawls back at some point though...

There are many times in my past I wish I'd been this dignified

Good choice OP. When his ex contacted him he would have said 'thanks but no thanks' if he was in to you.

You are now single to find someone who is really in to you.

Very classy OP.

I agree with others, don’t text. You sound amazing - you’ll definitely find someone better

Nope dont text, he is probably back with the girlfriend now and you left with dignity.

Just be careful, it's likely it won't work out with his ex again then he might come back to you, then think don't be anyone's second choice.

Absolutely not!
No chance!
No way!

Plenty more guys out there who won't go running back to their exes. ❤️

💜💜💜 love all your comments I definitely feel like I did the right thing! You are all amazing x

Well done. You respected yourself. 6 weeks is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

You might miss what might have been but you walked away strong and proud.

Keep looking. Xx

@Monkeytennis92

There are many times in my past I wish I'd been this dignified

I second this

If he’s going to get in touch because he misses you and regrets losing you, it’ll be after 8 weeks of 100% no contact. According to a book I read. It said men take 8 weeks to process a romantic loss. She called it the 8 Week Wait. You can (she says) set your watch by it.

You handled it PERFECTLY. Please don’t do anything. Wait another 2 weeks so you can tell me if that book was right. I’ve always wondered.

Delete his number so you can't text him. You've done the right thing. He was trying to get you to do the 'Pick Me' dance and you haven't. There are some amazing men out there who don't have ex girlfriend needy patheticness.Fo get one of those.

Reminds me of a man I was due to meet for a first date. He'd been super super keen and pushed for the date. Texted all the time etc.

The day before the date he texted saying he had awkward news, that a friend of his had confessed feelings for him and he was thinking of pursuing a relationship with her.

I replied wishing him all the best.

He then started back pedalling saying oh but it's complicated, I really like you..

I replied 'as I said, all the best'.

You did the right thing Op, I never regretted telling him where to stick his games (politely)

You've come out with your dignity intact, you handled it really well.

I think anytime you feel the need to consult a forum about whether or not it's a good idea to contact someone you barely know, then you should take that as a signal not to contact them.

People in healthy relationships (even very new ones) are far too busy having a nice time to have to 'ask the audience'.

wow... good for you OP.. you did absolutely the right thing.. it's hard yes but credit to you lady 🌸💕

I love that you maintained your dignity and gave the best response ever, and you didn't even realize how healthy it was at the time.

Keep it up, girl!

Nope, steer clear.