Friends taking sides

[Hazelnutwhirl]

First time poster - I fell out with one of my close friends a few years ago and although initial our mutual friends didn’t take sides eventual they all either blocked my on Social media or ignored my texts and messages. This was a while ago but every now and then I feel really sad that I have been made out to be the bad guy and I lost some great friends, most of the time it doesn’t bother me but if I see any posts from my old friends on social media I feel really sad that they aren’t my friends anymore. Anyone else been in a similar situation.

Just to add some more background my friend s I had been regally close with for a few years saw her everyday then when I dropped out of her hen party last minute she blew up and never really spoke to me again friend y was really nice to me initial we would hang out she invited me to her wedding even though friend s made a fuss, but in the end friend y dumped me because friend s kept making a fuss, I don’t really understand why people have to take sides.

not taking sides is also a statement.

In what way dogmandu?

Yep nasty split with a so called friend. Cost me my social group but Ill be honest Id end the friendship a million times over with the same result it was so toxic. Sad about the group yes but never sad about the circumstances. Their choice .

@Feilin

Yep nasty split with a so called friend. Cost me my social group but Ill be honest Id end the friendship a million times over with the same result it was so toxic. Sad about the group yes but never sad about the circumstances. Their choice .

Sounds like a familiar situation, like you not sad about the circumstances just being made to feel like the villain gets me down, seems such a shame.

I'm the same as @Feilin; needed to detach from massively toxic person in friendship group. The person I thought I was closest to (oldest friend) pal'ed up with toxic person, couldn't see why I had problem with toxic one and did not have my back when I really needed that. Don't now see either and my whole world has changed so much for the better