I was in a loveless sexless marriage for 25 years, turned out he was gay he manipulated me and basically shafted me for my inheritance, another story. It has left me with major trust issues.
Fast forward and I am now divorced and in a relationship with a guy also divorced for the last 3 years. I am really struggling to trust him, partly because of my past and also he has concealed things which I discovered later but he said anything he has not told me was to save me getting upset. I once asked him to show me his phone and there were texts where he was arranging to meet a woman for a drink after work which he didn't mention to me, apparently old colleagues and it never happened but it's left me paranoid. So...he's been offered another job working in a different company and in the office, not like at home now and I am totally paranoid he's going to meet someone else new and leave me despite him saying he wants to marry me and it's the last thing on earth he wants. I have told him how I feel and he has tried to reassure me but it's just at the back of my mind. He says he won't take this job without my blessing but I feel I am pushed into a corner to say yes (not that I feel I could say no) because he'd resent me for this. I need help don't I?