Three years ago I met a guy at work. We had an intense, really romantic relationship. It was wonderful but I ended it because he was hung up on his ex, he was terrible at emotions and communicating and I got hurt.
Every time he did something to upset me I would tell him and instead of apologising he would just go cold. He would always wait on me initiating messaging or conversation but he would always reply and engage when I reached out.
We work together although not directly together. I see him but don’t work with him. We had a chat a few months ago about being friends and talked about our good times we had. I told him I didn’t want anything romantically but I miss him in my life. He agreed.
Fast forward till now. I messaged him last week, he replied. He hasn’t initiated since.
It’s always me making conversation, he always seems happy and giddy when we talk, he even blushes but he won’t initiate anything! And frankly I’m done. I’m done with chasing him around. I get the feeling that he wants me to want him but he couldn’t actually care less about me.
He never fought for me when we broke up. In fact no contact lasted 1.5 years, he never once reached out…but the moment I do he’s happy to see and talk to me.
If I asked to meet him for coffee he would be there.
But he could go the rest of his life without ever asking me.
It’s really faded out now because I have left it and not chased and we are barely talking at work because he’s waiting for me to make moves.
I’m not going to pursue this anymore but for god sake why does he do this!
It seems when we actually talk he does care and he’s really into it but when I let go of the rope he doesn’t catch it.