Why can’t I just end things?

[LucyLovesCheese]

So basically I need to end my marriage.
I’ve had enough and see no way forward anymore ( I have had other threads under the same name so if you look this has been going on for too long).
The problem is I can’t - I don’t know why but I can’t. I’ve looked at the practical side (I’d be okay) and there is no doubt that I want to end the relationship but I can’t. I don’t know what I’m afraid of or what’s stopping me!
I think my dh may have been a bit emotionally abusive in the past, was a bit of a cocklodger (not now) but all that’s stopped now.
He is the only man I’ve been with since I was a late teen maybe that’s it but how do you do it? How do you get the words out? It’s that bad I feel like writing a letter or email to him to get it out there then deal with the fall out!! Any advice please?

I guess you just have to write down your reasons and just say it. You dont need permission to end things. If you are unhappy then rip the plaster off and go for it

Please don’t live your life unhappy and unfulfilled because you’re scared.

I have been in this situation - the thought of it all ending seemed worse than what I was living with. I promise you it isn’t.

I’m 8 months post-losing the loser and I can’t begin to tell you how grateful I am to past me for finally doing it. It wasn’t easy, especially in the beginning. But I wouldn’t go back if I was offered billions.

You deserve to be happy

Hopeful bump-sorry I don’t know what anyone can say to help but I feel so alone with the weight of all this dragging me down and it’s exhausting. It’s terrible timing now to say anything and rock the boat ..

Do you have DC? If not I would say the answer is obvious and simple. If you have DC, it will be harder to leave for sure and boils down to how much unhappiness you are willing to tolerate. I'm in that position and it's hard. If I could go back to my pre DC days, I would have left years ago.

I do have children yes, teenage which makes it harder (they are having some mental health problems at the moment as well).I should of left years ago when his behaviour was worse now it feels like me fussing over things that happened in the past

My advice.... Based on experience of this... But have been close to it. Is to just say something, doesn't matter what it is but blurt out I am. Unhappy, don't want this, don't want you ect.... And once it is out there it was start a chain of events out of your control.

Once said those words... He chain of events started. For me it was 3 months of ups and downs and in the end we worked it out. It get the problems a chnace to catalyse.

But for you it will Hopefully be the push because you donT have it left in you to make it right xxxx