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How long to leave it before I respond?

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Joeypotter1 · 13/07/2021 21:20

After not seeing my cousins after 22 years (my parents and their parents fell out), I got in touch with them in the hope that they might want to meet. They responded positively and a date was suggested. When we were closer to the date, one of my cousins had to drop out but the other cousin was still up for it. I booked a restaurant, gave directions and we swapped phone numbers. The night before she cancelled due to an upset stomach. I sent a message suggesting we reschedule for another day. The cousin who couldn't make it responded with the dates she couldn't do so I said let's make it the end of September. The one who had an upset stomach hasn't responded since the message saying she wasn't coming. I was just wondering if I should send another message yet asking if they were still up for it. It's been 4 days since I've heard from them. I think I'm finding it hard because they've been so positive and up for it and then suddenly there's silence. Just need some advice before I make a mistake and come across as a pain to them.

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AmongUs · 13/07/2021 22:59

Good on you for taking the plunge to reconnect with cousins after family fall out. I hope you get to meet and catch up eventually. Do you think they got cold feet for whatever reason. Just thinking 22 years is a long time. Wondering if your parents and their parents have managed to patch things up now. If not, could this have any bearing. I hope things work out and they contact you soon. I would give them the benefit of the doubt for now, they may get back to you over next few weeks but If you have to do all the chasing then maybe that’s not such a good sign.

yourestandingonmyneck · 13/07/2021 23:01

I would leave it for a while. A) the end of September is ages away, there's no rush and b) one of them is poorly, which may be why she hasn't responded.

You've done well reaching out. I think the ball is in their court now. Just wait and see.

Joeypotter1 · 13/07/2021 23:28

No, my parents and their parents still don't speak to each other. I actually only saw my cousins 22 years ago because I'd bumped into them at an ATM machine where it turned out one of my cousins was at the same uni as me! I had no idea.
I was just wondering what to do really as they'd been so positive about it and was just confused about the sudden silence. I had though also been thinking about waiting to August as it's at least a bit nearer to September so maybe I should try and resist getting in touch just now.

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AmongUs · 13/07/2021 23:35

Wow what a chance meeting at the atm! Yeah as September a while a way see how things go and perhaps you'll want to contact them sometime in August

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