Hi
My sister is 27 and has struggled with lockdown. She has had a tough year, lost her job, failed relationship, depressed. She won't take anti depressants or any medication. She has seen a naturopath who has given her supplements which she is taking. She saw a therapist but she didn't like them, so isn't seeing them again and won't see another currently as they're expensive. She's not interested in going to the GP as they will just suggest antidepressants.
She bites everyone's head off at the slightest thing, is pretty unpleasant to be around most of the time, rants a lot and just wants you to listen but is so so hard to be around. so angry. it's not directed at you (mostly me and our mum) but she's so vehemently unpleasant it's hard to listen to. We've tried giving advice, not giving advice, supporting her, validating her feelings, offering options, offering help, she basically just wants to be angry. She thinks she is "working on herself" and we can support her by listening and "not making her be happy", she is frustrated that we "don't want her around unless she is happy" which isn't true, but it is true that we don't like being verbally attached for asking what she wants for dinner.
She's just been ranting and raving all morning because she couldn't find her house key, literally screaming and shouting to herself for two hours (I am working in the home office and mum went for a walk to get out of the way). That's not normal, is it?
I've tried to get her to see the GP, take medication, get therapy, get help, but she just sees it as me forcing my ideas onto her to "make her happy" but it "won't work for her" and she is working on herself, apparently. The only thing that will make it better is "systematic change" apparently. She hates society, hates money, hates the government, and is so angry about everything.
She has a job and holds it together there.
She's not hurting herself, she smokes but doesn't drink regularly. She hasn't got many friends so turns to mum and myself for support/to rant to but it seems we so often say the wrong thing and that makes her even worse. We are trying to help, and not just because we want her to be happy because it's nicer to be around her (As she seems to imply). She takes our concern and turns it around, asking if we're perfect or pointing our our issues and telling us how we can work on them.
It's getting me down, walking on eggshells around her. She could go and live with her friend (She used to live with them but moved home for a job) but then she won't have a job and she will probably be worse (She was there mostly alone in lockdown 1 and this is when most of this behaviour started), we really felt moving home would help her but it's made things very hard for the rest of us!! And she doesn't seem any better.
I don't really know where I'm going with this other than what do I do?
Thanks