You know when you just can't help feeling that someone is making a HUGE mistake

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Well I have that feeling now. My brother who is one of the most lovely people on earth, is possibly getting back with his ex from 6 years ago, and while I know that it is totally up to him etc, I can't help feeling that it's the wrong thing to do and I so don't want him to get hurt.

What makes you think it's a mistake? What happened last time? Has he stayed in touch over the 6 years?

Well basically last time she messed him about alot was always flirting with other guys etc, and the break up was very messy.

They haven't seen each other or spoken for 6 years but have now met up again through facebook.

I'd love to think she has changed, but in all honesty, I don't think she has.

Obviously I will support him in whatever his does and if he wants to get back with her it is his choice, but I think he might get hurt again.

My dad is absolutly furious, which is a bit ott as my brother is 33 so old enough to do what he likes, but my dad is just worried I think.

Have you talked to your brother about how you feel?
6 years is a long time, so she could, hopefully, have changed..
It must be difficult for you, worrying about your brother, but there's not a lot you can do, other than tell him how you feel, maybe suggest they take things slowly, and be there for him one way or the other

Oh yeah he knows, as we've been discussing it for the past few days.

I really hope she has changed, but her actions over the past few days make me think she hasn't, she still seems very immature.

Fingers crossed I am wrong as my brother deserves to be happy.

It's good and understandable that you want the best for your brother.

If he is willing to give her another chance then he must also be willing to accept the consequences if it goes wrong again. I'm sure he's old enough and ugly enough to do this(not that i'm saying he's ugly - you know what I mean!!).

All you can do is let him know that you are there for him no matter what happens. Other than that, I don't think there's a lot more you can do.

It's nice that he's got such a supportive sister.

NC, facebook is the route of all evil to start with, I have a 31 year old sister and I worry about her but all I can do and all you can do is be there to pick up the pieces when it all goes wrong,

I wouldn't say anything to him!!!

If you set yourself against this relationship from the start he will never confide in you. Stay out of it, it really is none of your business, he is old enough to make his own mistakes.

Also, you only know his side of the story from last time? Family members do tend to be a bit biased?

If you stay neutral though he may come to talk to you later if it all goes wrong.

Oh don't worry, he has my total support whatever he does, and if he does have a relationship with her then he will hear no more about it from me, and I will treat her as I would anyone else he brought in to my home.

I have now spoken to my dad about it and reassured him that my brother is old enough and ugly enough (mutthahubbard thats exactly the phrase i used [smile), to look after himself, and that at the end of the day it is his life.

My dad is finding it hard because when they split 6 yrs ago my brother took it very badly and dissapeared for nearly 3 days, which broke my dads heart. He is just worried about what could happen again, but he has said that he realises he has to let him do as he pleases, and that he will not stand in his way.

Fingers crossed that it all works out.