How to move on....

[Brokenbloke]

Can't quite believe I'm writing this, I'm not really much of a talker but I'm broken and I need to find a way to put myself back together, only I just have no idea how.

I was with my ex for 18 years, for me it was for life. Only life doesn't always work out how you planned does it. Mine certainly hasn't and I just don't know how to recover.

My make friends are of no use, they think I'm the lucky one because they think I should be on Tinder and live a life they think they want. I can't think of anything worse, I miss her, I miss my old life, I miss my kids every minute they aren't with me.

I know its over, that is gone and there is no way back. She had an affair and left me for him and now they live together.

How do you get past that? How do you move on from that? How do you stop loving someone who was your life for so many years. Do you ever not miss them? I just don't have any idea???

I feel utterly broken, yet nobody sees it, they don't even think about it any more. People say it gets easier but I just miss her more.

I don't expect anyone to have all the answers but right now I haven't got any of them.

I’m sure someone will be along soon who can offer you advice, but feel free to keep talking if it helps. When you aren’t with your kids and working, what are you doing? Do you have any hobbies? Exercise?

While I don’t know the circumstances and your probably sick of hearing it but it does and will get easier with time. My wife decided to end our marriage to be with a co-worker, it’s taken me a while to get my head round the fact that it’s over and it’s taken me a long time to get my head round the fact someone can just do that.

I’m in a situation where my wife is living in our marital home with me and DS while she dates this new man.

I get where your coming from about the feelings that this was your future and your life and it sounds like you didn’t see it coming. Just take it easy and be kind to yourself, don’t make any big rash decisions while you come to terms it’s over. It’s really hard and as a man not knowing how to fix it can be soul destroying.

This will be a new chapter in your life, I too have mates that advise just go on tinder but I’m not ready yet and I would advise you give yourself sometime to heal before you do that, I know this is far from your mind but keep in mind when/if your dating someone at someone point you need to be emotionally ready so that it’s fair on the other person.