Hand hold and help please

[Lostinsurburbia]

What should I do? Married for 18 years 3 boys, 17,17 and 13. Eldest 2 I. The middle of A levels. I’ve been wanting to leave for a year. Husband is distant, sleeps on the sofa, no sex for over 3 years. In the past he’s been on chat rooms with other women, confronted him and he denies it. I’ve found evidence that he dresses as a woman when I’m not here. Won’t talk about it. I’m utterly miserable, find myself getting crushes on other men, never act on it. My problem is that I gave up a good career to look after the children so I’m financially dependent and I’m worried that leaving will ruin the boys chances of getting good A levels. They want to go to university. I’m in such a mess and so unhappy, what can I do ?

Good luck 💐

Your children will be so relieved if you separate, OP.

I'd do it sooner rather than later. I'd say to the kids, "I just can't do this any more." They will understand.

Best of luck with your interview - I hope you get the job. Once you know the outcome, go to a solicitor and ask for advice.

@cheeseismydownfall @surlycurly thank you! I’m sure the children will be happier in the long run. I’ve been putting money away. It’s finances that have kept me with him as well but I realise now that I can’t stay for that. I think he thinks I’m trapped with him, that I would never leave because I’ve given up my career. I’ve not told him about the interview tomorrow. He’s actively encouraged me not to work. He knows how unhappy I am but thinks I’ll never go.