Phone

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I grabbed my husband's phone and he came after me making me give it back, grabbing my wrist to make sure I let him have it back. What do you make of this?

Was he halfway through watching Tiktok?

Hiding something he doesn't want you to see. Could be serious like cheating or could be not (taking photos of his nostrils)...

Did he want to make a phone call?

He was in the shower!

Why did you grab his phone?

So how did he know you had his phone?

A few days later at night I got a chance to get his phone again and found videos of himself masturbating but couldn't find evidence of them being sent to anyone. This was about 4 years ago and a year ago he left me for someone else (he didn't know her 4 years ago). I feel so stupid now - looking back, I should have left him there. He said that he reacted like that when I took the 'phone because I didn't ask.

I can'r remember at the time - but he was always with his phone and protective of it. Feel so stupid. How will I trust again?

How will I trust again?
You Wont. With him at least.

If someone grabbed my phone I think I'd grab their wrist to get it back too, tbh.

But given your subsequent posts, you won't trust him again so it's over really isn't it?

We lasted 3 - 4 years after the phone incident but I felt resentment. The relief is good, but I feel bad that I was probably not nice to him or could forgive him for that, as we didn't discuss the issue properly. I feel sad for my children that I had felt that way and I feel sad for myself. He left in the end and it was so difficult when he did but now - I just feel lonely, but relieved and happier.

Really? Your partner of 14 years?

@FridayNightByCandlelight

If someone grabbed my phone I think I'd grab their wrist to get it back too, tbh.

But given your subsequent posts, you won't trust him again so it's over really isn't it?

My last message in reply

Well, I wouldn't grab the phone of someone I'd been with for 14 years.

If I felt the need to grab the phone, I have already left them.

I'd possibly have left them if 4 years ago I'd found videos of them wanting and would definitely have left them if they'd already left me for someone else a year ago.

I know that because I lefty husband for far less.

He shouldn't have grabbed your wrist but you shouldn't have grabbed his phone. You shouldn't even be with him.

Wanking not wanting

Are you remembering something from the past? What's triggered it.

Yeah you should have left him but you were kind and didn't. Good riddance he's out with the garbage now eh? Somethings you're better of not knowing.