Moving back home after another separation

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With no intention to move back out and get your own place.
In the last 9 years two relationships have ended, both involving kids. The first was a marriage with kids, the second a long term relationship with kids and step-kids.
Both times this man has gone back to his childhood home. He's 40 and has 5 kids. There is no space for the kids to stay at the same time yet he still has no plans to get his own place. He has two sets of kids on two different days so one day/night per set.
Is this common? He is quite capable of looking after himself and doesn't need to be back at his dad's (I grew up with him so know him well but I can't get my head round this). He seems to be enjoying the single life and his kids get the bare minimum of his time. He has a good job, earning a good above average wage, works shifts so is around during a good portion of the day but has little interest in seeing his kids or taking care of them, that's left to his two exes. It's really making me think differently about him. His kids are lovely and deserve so much better.

Is he looking after his dad?

What's the question here?

Sorry, I've not written it well. I suppose my question is, is it unreasonable to expect a grown man in his 40s to have his own home (rented or bought) and to be able to accommodate his 5 children and to be involved in their lives beyond one day a week?

No, not looking after his dad. Dad is fit and well and has various hobbies, activities and other things that take up his time. He is enjoying his retirement and rightly so.

Perhaps he's paying so much child support he can't afford his own house.
I really don't understand why you are judging him or are bothered about it unless you have a vested interest.

I moved back home after I separated from my husband.

I would have been fairly gutted if my brother judged me for it.

If he is a shit dad, he is a shit dad and was when the first marriage broke up. But I get the impression that the poor parenting has been added just to back up your distaste of him moving back home.

This is between this man and his father, surely?

He's a family member. It's more that this isn't temporary, it's permanent. He's never lived alone, he went straight from living with his dad to marriage, went back to his dad, then moved in with his long term partner and is now back with his dad. Yes, it's between him and his dad. I just feel sorry for his kids.

I would judge anyone who has 5 kids and doesnt bother to look after them.

But he will be a shit dad wethwr he lives with his own dad, or on his own.

Where he lives won't change that.

May be he can't afford to live on his own. Maybe his dad doesn't want the kids there more than 2 days a week. So many different scenarios

My ex husband did the same. Left me and the kids, moved back in with his mum. Saw the kids for a couple of hours at the weekend, no overnights. Now see's them on their birthdays and now lives with his girlfriend and her kids. Never lived on his own