I'm two years out of a long marriage, ex DH had an affair, walked out on me. Recently a lovely new friend of mine who has been OLD encouraged me to try a dating app so I did. I intended it to have fun and to make some new contacts with men for coffee, meals out, company, etc. Initially, not impressed at all by the men on the app (50 + dating). However, one reached out to me in a really honest way and gave me his number. We have met for two walks already. Here's the thing: We have loads in common, similar personalities, similar life experience. He seems really into me and has said so. I like him, and in a way I feel like he's definitely one of the nicer, more sincere people out there. My ex was an attractive narcissist drawn to drama and extremes and this guy is very calm and even tempered. He seems, though, like he really wants to start serious relationship soon and I don't know if I am afraid, or if it is too early for me but I find myself really hesitant. Also, and I know this is terrible, but physically, I don't find him 100% my type or up to the ideal that I feel I am looking for (and don't worry I am certainly not a perfect 10 or even 7 or 8). I keep telling myself that I don't want a person in my life who is shallow and attractive, I want someone who will treat me well. But I don't know if I want someone at all yet??? I recently listened to a brilliant interview with Rihanna made a few years ago and she said that her grandmother advised her to pick a man who loves her more than she loves him because women are always more giving than men...I don't know what to do. I do want someone in my life, but he seems to want to move ahead really quickly. But he does seem nicer and better than some of the others on the OLD. Advice?