Attraction

[Bringithome]

Been in a relationship for two years and I absolutely adore my partner. We’re currently expecting a baby and are really happy. This person has come into our lives through work (we work together and they've joined the company). We both clicked with him instantly. He’s very jokey and flirty with both of us and we all get on great. We’ve been out places just the 3 of us and its been great and he’s stayed here a few times.

I don’t plan on exploring anything beyond friend and neither does my DP, but it feels so strange to have that sort of chemistry and attraction as I thought i’d only feel that for my partner. My partner and him are also really close and often joke about if either of them were gay they’d be each other’s perfect partner.

I don’t know its just all strange. So just wondering has anyone else been in a similar situation? I’m thinking I should break off the friendship to stop anything developing in my mind. Id never cheat.

As far as I can see it - when you said yes to your husband (and he to you) - you were also saying no to everyone else.

Therefore, for both of you, your responsibility is to try protect your relationship first.

From your post it comes across that you are aware that you are at the thin edge of the wedge where pulling back is easier now than clearing up destruction and pain in the future.

Of course, maybe that won’t happen. You may have discovered the perfect threesome. Your brother-husbands and you will enjoy witty banter, thrilling sex and your child will have the benefits of two dads.

Ummmmmm

I'm sure I read something in a magazine or online recently about this this couple who experienced a similar attraction and they ended up a trio and one had a baby!

I really dont think we will become a ‘trio’ but it just seems so strange. Actually miss time when we’re all not together.

Best distance yourself from the “friend”