Am I the only one in this situation? Been with him for 21 years and the last few years we hit a really bad patch, he accused e of having an affair when in reality I was just going to the gym most nights to get my head straight. He was going through a breakdown at the time so I feel this is why im more inclined tomato sure he's ok rather than leave him high or dry.
We share the house with our 9 year old son, been in separate rooms for 2 years nearly (we alternate each night between the bedroom and a mattress on the floor in the spare room) and ds has never questioned It in all that time, only ever asks where i'm sleeping that night as hell come get me in the morning.
At one point we were barely speaking to each other and would go days without even looking at him, lockdown got us talking again and while we can be civil, have a laugh etc with our son and do family days out etc once he's in bed and its me and ex we go our separate ways. we've not even had the discussion that we are ex's its Justin unwritten thing between us.
Guess what Im asking is this unusual? I know I cant go one like this forever but at what point do you say enough enough now I need my own space etc. I think I could just about afford to move out if need be, neither one of us has mentioned it (only in anger a year ago did I say id move out and he offered instead but nothing was done).
This kind of works right now, I can nip to the gym in the evenings when hes home, he can go to friends etc when he likes, our son gets the best of his parents still, but theres something niggling at me saying we shouldn't be living like this? Just wondered are we alone in this arrangement and if youve been through it all how did it work out for you?