I guess this is not a new one, I'm in a relationship with a man who, when things don't go well, just buries himself into work as well as his online passion, which is listening to endless youtube talks.
We have a 3 year old, he also has grown up children who don't live with him.
When I ask him to talk (after a fight let's say), he's on his computer and I'm basically an annoyance. When I ask him to tell me when he's going to be available to talk, he says he'll tell me. Several days passed, he didn't tell me anything. But he did have time to talk to his grown up children (about politics), go kayaking with one of them, go to stores for some personal purchases, etc. I came to ask him again this morning, he said he has a lot of work and that we have to wait until after our vacation next week (i.e. in 2 weeks). The whole time, he barely even lifted his eyes from the computer.
It's always like that after a fight, to the point that unless really necessary, I don't really discuss problems with him. When we're ok, we're ok, when we fight, days later, we restart talking and the issue is never discussed.
It makes me feel so unimportant!
I would how other ladies would react to this kind of attitude?