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Massive row with dp

28 replies

Cailindeas35 · 10/07/2021 11:11

Morning all

For background I have major trust issues, stemming from childhood and a abusive relationship.
I stupidly this morning said this morning I didn't trust him. We are together 7 years and he has never done anything to make me not trust him.
He went mad and jumped out of bed, saying to get my kids and go if I don't trust him. I'm staying in his house for the weekend. It escalated and I started packing up, saying I'd leave and never come back. Then he back tracked and said he didn't say that, now I'm sitting in his house packed, waiting to wake my teenagers up, to go home.
He has took off like a lunatic I'm assuming to the mart.

My dilemma is what do I do, do I go home, or do I wait for him to return.
Many thks
Sorry its rambling

OP posts:
Northernparent68 · 10/07/2021 18:06

I think you wanted this to happen.

GrumpyTerrier · 10/07/2021 21:45

If my partner said they didn't trust me, we would have a heart to heart about why and get to the bottom of it. Trust must be earned, not just expected. And if someone has issues due to past pain, it can be discussed.

blackcurrantjam · 10/07/2021 21:55

I didn't trust my stbxh and for years blamed my past trauma yada yada worked on myself yada yada. I've learnt a lot about myself in the process and know I did contribute in some way to the difficulties we had.

In the end, it turned out my instincts were correct. He was hiding all sorts.

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