This year I made a new friend who became part of my regular friendship group, as she was dating a guy in our group. They split up earlier this year and she told me details why; basically nothing acrimonious and she’s feeling okay about it afaik but I get the impression she’s a little upset over certain aspects after a few months.
Where the shit friend element comes in is that last night I was out with a mutual male friend who seemed shocked when I mentioned that this friend of ours was now single and wanted to know all the reasons why it didn’t work out (unusual for a guy to ask this but I didn’t realise this at the time). Stupidly I was only too keen to tell him; nothing embarrassing but there were some specific details in there which I think she would have only divulged to me.
I’m not even sure why I did this except I probably was excited to be able to offer him some relationship tips (he’s always been unlucky in dating) and I find the whole topic of what makes a relationship successful very interesting to discuss. However now I feel like an insufferable gossip and what’s worse is that said mutual male friend is now apparently hitting on my single female friend and she is finding this awkward and doesn’t appreciate his attention. I am also scared he’ll let slip how much he knows about her breakup!
I don’t know what to do except try harder to stop myself from spilling details of others which are none of anyone else’s business. I’m rather horrified at myself and fully understand if my friend finds out and is angry at what I’ve done. Is there anything I can do to try and stay out of stirring things next time? Or just tips for not getting so involved in other people’s private lives? I feel like I’ve really let myself and my friend down.