Husband getting the snip on Monday - suddenly sad!

[Mummypig2016]

We have 2 wonderful daughters together plus 2 stepchildren from his previous relationship whom I adore. 7 years together, just got married last week. He's been planning a vasectomy since our 6 month old was born and I've always been fine with it (my last pregnancy was horrid and full of complications). However he was talking about it tonight as it's the surgery on Monday and I was hit with the most gut wrenching sadness and had to leave the room to cry! Is this normal? Will it pass?

To clarify - I would love to have another baby in a few years but he doesn't want to at all and since we have 4 children altogether I couldn't see the point in asking. I thought I'd made my peace with no more babies but I guess the finality of the vasectomy is upsetting.

DH was only 27 when he had his vasectomy. He's always said he only wanted two children, 6 days after our 2nd was born he had the procedure.
Even now we say "wouldn't it be nice to have a 3rd" or "wouldn't a girl be nice" (we have 2 boys).
But our eldest has some special needs and our youngest is a bit whingey and cries alot. Honestly, I wouldn't really want a third and I've found it easier really to have the option completely off the table. We can talk about it, but its like winning the lottery, it's just talk and that's fine as it is.
I know he was really young to make the vasectomy decision, but he made the decision that he was done and i respect his decision and his maturity around it to be honest.

I always think it's strange how men can get a vasectomy so easily, but women asking to have a sterilisation or even a treatment for endometriosis that would also affect their fertility on the NHS are refused the same agency until they've reached an 'acceptable' age.

Would be be able to freeze some of his sperm with a fertility clinic? Just in case.

I felt the same after my husband had his. As soon as our 3rd was born he went the doctors and 6 months later it was done. Now youngest is 5 and I couldn't even imagine having another baby. Sister had a baby recently and I love the cuddles but happy to hand back.

@NeverDropYourMoonCup

I always think it's strange how men can get a vasectomy so easily, but women asking to have a sterilisation or even a treatment for endometriosis that would also affect their fertility on the NHS are refused the same agency until they've reached an 'acceptable' age.

I disagree, I don't think a 29 year old woman with 4 children would have any problem being granted sterilisation.

I think it's great he's taking responsibility for his fertility but your allowed to be a little sad OP.

I'm sure this sounds cynical but you got with him very young. You still have maybe 15 years of fertility ahead of you. A lot can change in that time.

I mean I've literally just married him so my plan is to grow old with him 😂
We had our daughter when I turned 21 (literally, she was born the day after my birthday) and the pressure was too much so we split when DD was 7 months. We were on good terms though and I moved into my own flat with my daughter and lived independently for a long time. We rekindled our relationship after a year apart and took our time rebuilding the foundations. We never moved on in that year apart and we still loved each other but I needed to grow by myself for a while. I feel completely and utterly secure in our love and marriage and he has done so much for our family. He doesn't want more kids, I can't argue with that. Imagine if it was the other way round? I know 100% he won't change his mind (think the vasectomy proves that as he is terrified 😂) but he wants us to close that chapter of our life and move onto raising the children we have and building our future up.
Sorry this is longwinded, I fully support his decision for no more babies. I'm just sad that chapter is closed.
I keep reminding myself how AWFUL my last pregnancy was to deter my feelings 😂