Feeling low in myself 5 months after breakup. Is this normal?

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So it's 5 months since my almost 5 year relationship ended. Although I'm not crying too much, I'm feeling very low in mood, no real interest in anything, just want to be by myself. Has anyone else felt this way a few months after a breakup? I'm not pining for him or wanting him back - I definitely don't, he hurt me a lot - but still have the odd day where I cry.

I think you cant underestimate the fact that you are doing all of this in a pandemic. Lots of people even without a break up are suffering low mood. I'm 6 months on and generally ok but lacking motivation and feeling a little fragile. Tears aren't far from the surface and I also struggle to find any joy in the things I used to like like reading in coffee shops etc I just cant be bothered! I too don't miss my ex for himself, I miss the feeling of being in a relationship though. I have started to feel like I'm enjoying living alone but have a fear of how long this will go on, will I ever meet anyone again, be alone forever etc etc it's a hard old time and has been so tough in the current climate. You are not alone xx

Don't question your feelings. They are the wild and untamable part of you. You can't control them, any of them. You have to listen to them, and respect them.

There is no 'normal'. The length of time it takes you to recover from being hurt is 100% right for you. Don't worry about if you're getting it 'right' or not. Just hear what your feelings are telling you. You feel like you need to lay low? Then lay low. Permit yourself to indulge. Respect yourself enough to do what you need. That will speed your recovery better than anything else.

foundations I Love this advice, that’s really helped me too , thank you!

Crochetmonkey, I'm feeling exactly like you when you say tears aren't far from the surface. Even though I'm crying less, it wouldn't take much to set me off. I usually devour books but have lost interest. I feel I'm laying around doing nothing a lot of the time.

Me too, I'm trapped in a cycle of phone surfing the same 4 apps , but I do actually want to read, do crafts etc. Its like I cant get myself out of a ditch