Online Dating Profiles

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I've dipped back into the murky world of online dating. Getting weird/inappropriate messages is one thing but I'm surprised what people get away with in their profiles.

I got a message from a guy who stated in his profile that women who shave "down below" (my words) need not bother. I have to say I was surprised and by this even as someone who has had a lot of online dates in the past and loads of inappropriate messages.

Anyone else seen any weird/inappropriate profiles? Not messages.

There is a dating thread on relationships. You can get better advice there. I think it is common for people on dating apps to get weird messages, strange offers and so on. The population of online daters might include some normal folk, but it will be an ocean of oddballs, misfits and users/ scammers/ players who have no other opportunity to find anyone...a partner, a target, a pulse for the night...I think the wisdom of the OLD thread culminates to the point of concluding that nothing online is real until you have verified it offline.

Hi. Thanks for the reply. I'm not looking for advice. I just thought I'd start a thread on strange/inappropriate things on profiles out of interest. I probably should have posted on a dating thread though.

I suppose people can put whatever the way like on their profile, providing it isn’t graphic or obscene. And on some level, it’s almost desirable that they do: those with questionable profiles out themselves immediately as people you don’t want to bother messaging / responding to.

Honestly, the profiles I find the weirdest are those which are basically a long list of “no this and that” and “don’t bother messaging me if…”, interspersed with general negativity about the sex of the people they’re trying to attract. Why would you think a stream of consciousness displaying how negative, bitter and restrictive you are is the way to attract dates??

@ComtesseDeSpair years ago inbetween my previous relationship and my now marriage I dipped my toe on POF. I literally put a photo of myself and something like "moody, sullen and will make your life miserable. Don't message me because I won't answer"

I was inundated !! Because of my sparkling wit I assume, many saying oh it's nice to read something different and great sense of humour etc. etc. Apparently being the opposite of charming and being brusque from the outset is hugely attractive to some men - ergo maybe they think if they do it we'll find it attractive too.

Should mention tho I am moody , I'm not particularly sullen and I try my best not to make DH's life miserable haah!! Seem to be working out ok! (Didn't meet him on POF btw, met him on Tinder some time later when I didn't put anything at all in my bio and just nature take it's course

@Gilda152 - I’d probably read that and recognise it as humorous, to be fair. My own Tinder says “not interested in pictures of your car or your dick: I almost certainly drive a nicer car, and I’m definitely a bigger dick.” And the right people, get the humour

But I swear I read a profile recently which, without even paraphrasing much, read “Don’t know why I’m even bothering with this, all you ladies turn out to be liars and golddiggers anyway, no idea why a nice guy like me ends up with so many bitches. Don’t bother messaging me if you’re fat, don’t have any boobs, don’t know what hair removal cream looks like, think being a feminist is something to be proud of, or expect me to care about listening to you moan.” I mean, get in line to date this prince among men, eh.

@EvaMangle - "clean blood" - how strange!

@ComtesseDeSpair - Do you think some people don't realise how negative they are being? Maybe they've had bad experiences and are listing what they don't like as a result? It is off putting though.

@Gilda152 - brilliant! Glad you found the right one.

@ComtesseDeSpair urgh he sounds awful, what is he actually expecting?!

Oh yeah I've come across loads of weird profiles.
The list of negatives - so off-putting!
Many men admitting they are in a polyamorous relationship...

Many men admitting they are in a polyamorous relationship…”

What’s weird / wrong with this? I’m in an open relationship: the whole point is that you’re upfront about it so that you don’t disappoint or deceive those looking for something monogamous.