I know this horrid behaviour but is there a label on it ...

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For the sake of context these actions were made by a woman towards a man.
Is there a thread running through these behaviours to make them typical of a label?
Isolating partner from
Family and friends.
Discouraging parent from spending optimum time with his children and giving silent treatment when parent collected early or needed to help ex spouse with extra time.
Refusing to engage with partners kids unless there was no choice.
Deleting phone numbers / messages and videos of family and friends .
Throwing plates and cutlery when angry, at partner .
Shouting and screaming when partner did not give the ' correct'
Answer to a test / question.
Personally insulting partner about their body / physical features .
Stealing money from partner .
Jealousy when in the company of partner when other females were present , family
Included.
Ungrateful for thoughtful
Presents .
Rehashing old arguments over and over .
Passing nasty and hurtful comments that would have detrimental effects on partners relationships with others , based on rumour .
Mildly sexually abusive .
Sexually selfish and
Demanding.
I know that these examples are awful but is there a common thread here please .

Sounds like my ex-h's girlfriend. It's controlling and coercive behaviour. Domestic abuse.

These are all common behaviours of a coercively controlling/ abusive relationship. The generic term would be emotional and psychological abuse.

It is so hard to understand how one person who claims to
Love another can be so awful towards them.

Abusive and dysfunctional. Why do you need a label, can't you just get help for the poor guy?

Coercive control.

I don't need to get him help . He is in the process of getting help through therapy. I just don't know what it was

It's abuse basically. And coercive control. www.laurarichards.co.uk/what-are-the-signs-of-coercive-control/

ManKind is a good organisation for men to seek assistance from.

It's not about loving them, it's about having control over somebody's life and the abuser themselves will nearly always have extremely low self esteem and abandonment issues or in the case of my ex-h and the loon he lives with, a spoilt only child who nobody has ever said "no" to and uses control and coercive actions to get their own way.

It beggars belief and I think the upsetting part is that he just cannot understand how he ' allowed' himself to be treated like that.
When we have a minor disagreement , he gets very anxious and almost fears that I'm
Going to leave him and has exaggerated responses to basic teething problems in a relationship.
He is so giving and thoughtful and loving and finds it very hard to understand that t when I afford him the same treatment and respect . He has so much love to
Give as do I and when we do normal
Things in relationships eg going out separately , he expects abuse/ hassle/ constant calls and texts.
It's hard to navigate at times .