A month ago I ended a relationship that was kind of a situation ship for my own mental health. He was a a horrible person that started off nice and changed. He hid a lot of things from me and then gradually things just started tumbling out. He's a typical toxic person I suppose. He's a manipulator, he's a cheat, he's a liar. He has history with alcohol addiction. He is just not pleasant. When I met him he was very convincing that he was the good guy. He started to emotionally abuse me I suppose. It was a gradual thing and I did wake up pretty quickly. There were a few bumpy patches where he would go off for ages and then return. For the first couple of times i was a bit blind to what was happening and figured I had said the wrong things and it was my fault. But I started to see he just didn't want me to have an opinion or ask him questions that made him feel like he had to commit. He made out he wanted a future with me but he clearly was never going to to step up to the table.
Most of his games are around other people. A lot of women have been hurt by him in various ways. He's had some long term relationships and many little realtionship type flings. This is I suppose what I come under. He will entertain you for approximately 4 to 6 months and then he gets bored and starts playing games. By that point you've been conned into thinking he loves you and all the rest.
Once I had enough evidence he was lying through his teeth about everything I managed to dump him last month. I blocked him on every platform that we used to communicate. I was hoping after all the ups and downs he would finally be gone now as my last message I pretty much told him what I thought of him and it wasn't nice. A normal human being who had been told that's how a person sees them would not want to communicate with that person again.
My phone buzzed at around 2 a.m. this morning. It was a random message from him on WhatsApp. We don't usually talk on there at all so I didn't think he would even think about it. He also blocked my number back in march and it had stayed blocked even in May when he came back again. I used to have to call him off private number so we could talk. He sent me a message with one letter and that was it. Nothing else no words just a random letter. I haven't opened it and and I've ignored it completely. But I don't know how worried I should be at this stage about this behaviour. He's in his forties and this is just not normal behaviour. Not at that time in the morning and not without using actual words to communicate.
He's obviously hoping I will message him and asked why he sent that so he can either pretend he didn't mean to or that he was checking I was not blocking him. So he's wanting another round of games. Which I am not doing. I've done a lot to help that man out and he's burned aall his bridges with me now and I'm fed up. So would you be concerned about this latest attempt to contact or do you think he will go away as this will be the first time I've not responded to him. Thank you to anyone who can share their experiences in similar things.
He needs to see a therapist and and he really needs to sort his head out he's a mess. I actually feel quite sad when I see how dysfunctional he actually is and he definitely is needing some help. He has a variety of problems and he can't help himself so nobody else can help him either. This is why I want him out my life because I've got no energy left for him anymore. He's also had suicidal thoughts and attempted suicide in the past. Overall he's a very disturbed individual who continues this pattern with various people. The reason I stopped speaking to him and lost all respect for him was because he lied through his teeth about a woman on his Facebook. He was insisting she was his friend and she told me they had had sex numerous times over the last few months. So he was well and truly sneaking behind my back and he told me off just a few weeks ago for thinking he was looking out other options/people. He said he was really hurt that I was suspicious of him looking elsewhere. So he was that sick in the head he tried to get me to apologise for something he claims he wasn't doing even though he was doing it big style.
I really am trying my best to move on and I feel quite sad this morning that he still has focus on me. He doesn't want me. So why can't he leave me alone now and get on with his life?