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Awkward moment with partener

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Nikecross · 07/07/2021 07:22

So just told my boyfriend of 8 months that I love him this morning, only to not have him feel the same way and to get a.. Yea, Well u have a good day at work yea.
I feel so embarrassed, I'm not sure what to do now. I've felt strongly for a long time am I jumping the gun? I feel like just telling him I need time to reevaluate things as I don't want to scare him away. AIBU?

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Margaritawithlime · 07/07/2021 07:30

It took my now husband 6 months to tell me he loved me. 6 months AFTER I’d said it to him. But I didn’t feel weird or strange telling him and I wasn’t unhappy he hadn’t said it back I just knew I felt that way and I was incredibly happy and secure in our relationship so I was happy to wait until he was ready and sure he wanted to tell me the same.
If it’s made you want to take a step back you need to think about why. Telling someone you love them isn’t to hear the words in return it’s because you love them and you shouldn’t have to hide that. Do you feel loved? Does he appreciate and respect you? Make you feel secure in your relationship? If so maybe give it some time. Have a chat! If you’re able to tell him you love him you should be ok with having a conversation about it.
If you feel anxious and insecure, if he doesn’t treat you well or emotional runs a mile then I can understand why you’d take a step back.

starsigns28 · 07/07/2021 16:26

My friend has been with her partner for 5 years and he still won't say the L word ! Some men (and women) just don't feel comfortable saying it - it does not mean that he does not love you though

66babe · 07/07/2021 17:30

Maybe you just took him off guard ?
Maybe he's not a morning person?
Maybe he wasn't expecting that ?

How is the relationship, are you happy ?
Do you have good times when together

Or do you feel concerned in other areas ? It's just words at the end of the day
I'd be more concerned about how he makes me feel

Kottontail · 07/07/2021 18:23

As other posters have said, how does he treat you? You can have all the 'I love yous' in the world but if you don't feel it, it's worthless. I think some people find it difficult to say it out loud.

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