Do narcissists manipulate us better in any way by letting us know their opinion of themselves?

[me4real]

I don't mean trying to convince us how rich, clever etc they are.

But things like announcing they're the funniest person in the room.

Does it help them manipulate others in any way to pronounce overtly that they think they're awesome? I mean not just an inner feeling of comfort, but does saying it somehow help them manipulate people?

As I'dve thought it mostly rubs people up the wrong way.

Just wondering really, no current real world situation I'm in.

In family dynamics, particularly where dc are growing up with a parent who distorts and gaslights and publicises their own version of reality, it must be quite a powerful tool

If by powerful tool you mean damaging environment then yes. As someone who grew up with a Narcissistic mother it completely distorted my identity, reality, confidence, she made me feel apologetic for being born, I owed her from the off for the privilege, the fact that I should have been a boy, I stole all the goodness from her hair whilst pregnant, took away her freedom....she left when I was 11 but I went on to chase that 'relationship' for many years until I went NC after enough was enough.

The mindgames of belittlement were constant, even more so after she left. She always held power over me which she lived off, she could say and do what she wanted knowing it'd be me who come crawling almost begging her to be my mum, to show some affection or love. It never happened. It just fed her Narcissistic need.

I get a bit frustrated when people talk about narcissism, the term seems to readily used at the moment to describe arseholes, plus social media is breeding the self obsessed and the world is full of them, narcissism is a whole different level.

@Frazzledd we, unfortunately, share similar experiences growing up. It never leaves you. Going NC is such a brave thing to do. I commend you for it. 💐