I have been with my OH around 9 years. Fantastic to start with, rough patch in the middle, and I though more stable now.
We have moved area with his family, and due to his family had to move again 6 months later (not his fault but we had no option) so it has been a stressful year. Whilst the original plan was to be mortgage free we have now ended up with a very big mortgage, and big time commitments with the new house which needs a bit of work.
OH now is having doubts and wants to move back to our original location. His family will remain in current new location but his children (19,16) are back in the original location.
We have moved on average once per year in our time together, all initiated by him, and with me feeling like I basically have no choice as he has owned the houses (I own a separate buy to let) and yet again we are back in the same situation. He wants to move, I 100% do not but am going to have no choice (other than to leave the relationship) as he has most of the money!
I really don’t feel I can go through with another move and face a future of having no stability as I am always wondering when another move will have to happen. In his eyes each house move has always been an upgrade which is how he has justified it....I just want stability and don’t care for a bigger house. I like outside space, which is what we have a lot of here.
We are at a bit of a stalemate here, I feel I cannot keep sacrificing my own need for stability, but he always has what he feels is a valid reason each time.
How do we negotiate around this....or don’t we and do we go our own separate ways??
Ironically due to finances I will have no option other than to go back to our original location, near my family. I gave up my job to work for his family business 2 years ago and therefore a split will leave me jobless as well