How much input/ say do you have regarding your husbands / partners social media activity?

[laplante]

Meaning are you oblivious? Do
You care who he interacts with ? Are you happy for him to have many female
Friends and followers even if he doesn't
Interact with them? Or is it all a little
Controlling to Feel that it's inappropriate to have female followers/ friends that he doesn't know in real life?

Dh deleted any female IG accounts that weren't his friends or relations when we got together. I didnt ask him to or even notice, but he did and I like that he's not goggling other women whilst married to me.

None.
Partner has FB, I dont.
we have instagram but neither post much and i have no idea who they follow and visa versa

No idea .. I don't use FB or any social media (apart from Mumsnet), he may use FB occasionally... I don't really care.

Couldn’t care less. No idea what he does on social. Very little I think but even if he did more I don’t care

After your update I understand your questions a bit more. But new guy is not your ex, you can't hold that over him.

My dh had an affair, it's 13 years ago now but he still did it, I have zero interest or input into his social media. If I'd thought I'd have to check up on him forever more I'd have ended back when it all happened. I can't be arsed with all that, jealousy is so damn tiring.

OP, sorry your ex cheated, but he didn’t cheat because of social media, he cheated because he wanted to.

You shouldn’t blame your new boyfriend for what your ex did, and what he does on social media isn’t something you should try and police, it’ll drive you crazy.

The only input I have to DH’s social media is when he does his yearly post and he wants me to check it’s funny before he posts.

OP social media is just a tool and it’s not an indicator. If someone wants to cheat, what they do or don’t do on social media won’t change that. What their partner asks them to do on social media, won’t stop them cheating. Someone can be pretty inactive on social media and still cheat.

I recognise that I am being unreasonable . I work every day at trusting myself and my thoughts again not to mention trusting others . I presume this is just another response or trigger all part of healing . I feel comforted that the majority of you don't know or don't care because you are right , if they will cheat on their partners , it won't necessarily be just through social media .